Stacey1236 asked:
I am 23 years old and the man that I am with is 45 years old. What do you think? Do you think it can work…Do you think age matters? I find older men more appealing and more mature then younger men or men my age. What do you think???
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As an older man I am completely in favour of it.
love sees no age.
I don’t think anything of it. Another adult’s romantic relationship is none of my business. As for whether it can work, I can’t tell you as I know neither of you. You’ll have to wait and see.
I think compatibility is most important, and also that the female is of legal age of course!
all i know of is a 14 year old girl and 17 year old boy but love is love and there is no age barrier love is a beautiful thing so why worry about age, age is nothing to love.
xo
Age doesn’t matter with love…
i feel sorry for them. its disgusting. put it this way your daughter dating a older guy
Matter of choice
No-one can answer that for you. We are not you. Is the age gap an issue between the two of you? If not, why worry. If it is, you need to discuss it with him and find a solution or go your separate ways.
age doesn’t matter as long as you love each other…, it will work. its the LOVE not the AGE.
I think youre going to be treated better with an older guy.
If you like going out with someone old enough to be your Dad. But, I guess they have more money than a 23 year old boy would. Can it work? In 20 years, when you are 43 and he is 65, will you want to stay home and be a caregiver if necessary? We cannot predicte what lies ahead.
I don’t have a problem with it in the short-term, but long-term it will leave you burdened and unsatisfied. If you are thinking short-term, there is no problem, as long as you are both agreed on that.
When i was 17 i dated a guy that was 27 it was hard because at that age i wanted to go out all the time and he wanted to settle down. I think it depends on what type of person you are and what they are and i dont think age matters, its the personailty of the both of you.
sometimes it works. but your relationship will be parent child.
if your ok with this you might have a good relationship.
he will also look like hell in a few years wile you are still young.
I think it completely depends what sort of couple you are.
I know plenty of people where this works, and also some where it hasn’t.
I do know someone who is 18 and going out with a 40yr old. I feel this is a bit wrong.
Absolutely i am 23 and my Husband is 35… We have been married for 2 1/2 years… I agree i found him a lot more smart and appealing then men my age… Age does not matter… Remember this saying ‘Age is a state of mind’… Go for it and enjoy… Naomi
I think there is nothing wrong with either sex dating older persons. Dating is an experience to see what interests you may have in another person, it’s supposed to be fun. If you are having fun and enjoying yourself; if you are happy, go for it. Good Luck!!!
as long as you both click and you both are responsible adults, there is nothing wrong with that. it is a preference and it doesnt matter if others do not approve. opinions afterall vary. but always acknowledge the fact that you both will have your differences. and whether you like it or not, age does have something to do with it. but as long as there is respect and acceptance, then all will be well.
I think it means I will never be at a loss for p pussy. I think its fanbabulous
The best combination for a relationship. It makes the man feel so much younger and the young lady feel more secure with a mature man. I met my girl when she was 18 and i was 30, we are getting married next year finaly after 10 happy years. If he is kind and loving to you stick with him.
in my case, i like older men! but the most is like 7 years gap! hehe.. i think it would also work as long as there is love and respect. i have an aunt and uncle who’s age gap is like 20 years.. honest!
There is no doubt that a relationship can survive and flourish, but it takes special people. Try to keep in mind that in 7 years you are really going to want children, he will be in his early 50′s. When he is 60 you will still be in your 30′s. There are physical changes that cannot be denied and as he is slowing down you will be hitting your prime. True love however can overcome, but you had better be 100% sure, look around at men and couples in their 50′s and 60′s and observe.
if you’re really in love, that’s all that matters..age doesn’t really matters as long as you get along really well and you’re relationship is centered in Christ.
My opinion is age is just a number. The relationship can work if you both put forth the effort. Go for it , if you ever need someone to talk or chat with drop me a line. or lynettefaith85705 on yahoo messenger. my name is faith
Age is jz a number and love is not blind.It’s common nowadays even for a women which older than a man for 10yrs or so..As long both of u have a mutual understanding and love each other..who cares abt age.It’s important that both of you are happy.
I think that your perspective towards security and more mature Man is not a bad idea, but how old is too old is the question.
Age does matter to a point, but now on the other hand, how may girls would be fruitful with a Man that is 70 years old and she is just 30 years old?
I know a girl right now that is 17 years old and married a 49 year old man.
She is pregnant already. This guy she married is a Disabled Veteran drawing 100% Service Connection and he can privde for her and the child? He has a house paid for and drives a brand new 2008 Trailblazer and she drives a 2008 Cadillac Escalade and she just turned 18.
What ever you may feel about it, what she did was gurantee her life protection in this world and her child, but still she knows that he will grow old gracefully and she will still be young when he hits 80 years of age if he lives that long.
All I can say is that there alot of lady’s here that put her down for saying she’s crazy.
She is young yes, but that was her choice and she seems to be living pretty good with her choice and he does love her dearly.
Wild story, but true very true. Veterans jumping on the younger generation with all their money to boot from Iraq.
I know a another soldier from Desert Storm that just got $256,000 in back pay.
He too has lady’s chasing him right now because of his money and what he has.
The girls are getting wiser and saying to themselves why should I do without with a young lad that is struggling to pay his rent when she can have luxury on the other side of life by choosing a older person to be with that can provide security and much more.
I can’t blame them for jumping on well off man versus a young boy still making the ranks,
What the world…que sera sera
Okay I will play devils advocate here. 22 years difference? Honestly no. You have a lot of life that you will want to go expirience and he’s been there done that and gotten the t-shirt. He may not understand why you want to go do this or that and not just chill at home with him. I don’t think a 23 year old guy would be mature and not responsible enough for you by far. Since I was a teenager I have dated older guys but my limit was 5 years difference. I would try for a guy in his late 20′s maybe 30. A much younger person is like easy prey. A woman close to their age is too much of a hassle and challanging to some men. I know TONS of guys close to your age that are mature, responsible, sucessful, HOT and still have a zest for life. I found out that I was dating a lot of boys, not men. Age has nothing to do with wisdom.
Good luck!!!
it doesnt bother me at all. my gf is 13 yrs younger than me. age doesnt matter as long as you get along, are compatible and make each other happy.
Nothing wrong with it, there are alot of older woman with younger men also. Can be a great thing if both are mature minded.