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Cougar Dating Advice: Why Successful Women Fail With Men

SajaDuarte — Sun, 21 Mar 2010 08:23:00 +0000

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Dating Advice:
Why Successful Women
Fail With Men

Hey,

Have you ever thought that some men just don’t
like strong smart women like you?

What’s up with that!?

Are men that weak and immature?

Well, let me ask you an important question
about the men and love in your life.

By the way, how you answer this question could
tell the difference between finding a fun, loving
and almost effortless relationship that works out
in the long term.

Or…

Being single and lonely because every man you
get close to ends up resisting and withdrawing
from the love and connection you know could be
there.

So here’s the important question I have for
you:

Does not having the love and relationship you
truly want in your life change how you act as a
woman?

Think about it for a second.

I’m asking, because I recently got an amazing
email.

In the email, a woman shares her realization
about herself and men that has changed her
attitude and perspective about love for the
better.

Check out her FASCINATING email….

>>>> Email From A Reader

Christian,

I found your book to be incredibly interesting and
quite insightful. Lots of moments of clarity on a
subject that is, at least for me, fairly foggy.
While I’m not exactly new to the dating game, each
experience I have had with dating, boyfriends and
even a fiance has turned up new and exciting
horror stories. And then all of a sudden, I think
I see the light. In reading your notes about women
who subconsciously send signals of essentially
being too interested and men’s responses to them,
I totally saw myself.

While I am more than a little reserved about an
outright appearance of “needy” (I’m a very
attractive, well educated, highly successful woman
and I don’t NEED anyone…right??) I suddenly
realize, after reading your book, that my inner
emotional state is actually very high-pressure,
even if I try (probably unsuccessfully) to hide
it. It’s my inner control freak taking over. I
find myself dressing a little nicer when I think I
might run into the boy-du-jour. Positioning myself
in places where I might “run into” him (I swear
I’m not a stalker, but I think most women actually
engage in this kind of ridiculousness).
Fantasizing about my life with him in it. And all
of a sudden, there I am, trying to take control
and ensure the proper development of this
“relationship”. (of course- I’m always in control,
right? That’s how i’ve gotten so far in my career
and other areas of life…) And then,
inexplicably, the more I try to control the
situation by impatiently interfering with the
natural flow of things, the more I lose my
patience and emotional cool. My long-winded point
is, that prior to reading your book, I had not
been able to step back from my own issues enough
to realize that my “control” was actually making
me lose control.

Amazingly, this explains not only my own
relationship breakdowns, but those of most of my
gorgeous, successful girlfriends who also seem to
have no luck with men. We have successfully built
careers (and great figures) with hard work,
persistence, and ultimately achieving control of
our situations. It’s a pattern that has worked in
careers where competition and winning is key.
However, sometimes I think we view romantic
interactions with men, not as an interpersonal
communication in which we must evaluate the other
person’s point of view, but as just another part
of the life scheme that has been set forth for
every good superwoman- the significant other that
we are expected and expect to have. The problem is
that. you never “have” another person. Nor should
you. Your book made me step back and reevaluate
how I have been going about dating- as though it
was a means to an end. And I firmly believe that
this was the point of breakdown for me (and
probably for lots of other women). Dating must be
viewed as a means to a relationship with another
person, not as a means to HAVE that other person.
Thus, that person’s needs must be objectively
evaluated as very much separate from my own. If
men can be happy and even have a need to pursue
and compete, then why be readily available? It
just doesn’t make sense when you put it that way.
And you did.

As a result of your book, I truly believe I will
be able to reevaluate the way I look at the men I
date- as PEOPLE. With individual interests, needs,
wants, beliefs and expectations. Not as extensions
of myself (like MY career and MY home) that I
build based on my expectations, interests, etc.
Thank you so much for sharing your gift of a fresh
perspective, no doubt based upon plenty of
extensive research. I really think this will
change dating for me.

Sincerely, A.W. in
Missouri

>>>> My Response

Wow.

I love hearing from smart, analytical and
thoughtful women like you.

Thanks for being so open and sharing your
personal experiences… and for the feedback about
my book.

There’s something that’s really FASCINATING
about what you’ve brought up.

Over the last several 20 or 30 years, as women
have started to enjoy a more “equal” place in
society with careers, opportunity, etc., something
strange has happened.

Have you noticed that women are often no longer
considered “womanly” or “feminine” once they’ve
become independent and successful in their own
right?

I have.

And not coincidentally, everywhere I go I hear
women talk about how much it sucks that men are
intimidated by successful women and don’t want to
be with women who are on an “equal” or higher
standing.

Well, with so many women talking about this
phenomenon, I’ve thought a lot about how and why
this is happening to women.

And why men are responding the way they are.

How can being smarter, more independent,
talented, etc. than other women and other men
actually become something negative?

After lots of research, observation, and
personal experience, here’s what I realized about
the “plight” of the successful and independent
woman…

I’m about to tell you the reasons why
successful women often have a HARDER TIME than
other women finding love.

REASON #1: INDEPENDENT AND SUCCESSFUL WOMEN ARE
SMART ENOUGH TO BE DANGEROUS

Have you ever noticed that other smart and
successful women around you are often the ones
alone or in the least fulfilling relationships?

And have you ever noticed that no matter how
intellectually educated a woman is, it doesn’t
make her immune to the problems of love that a
broke or uneducated woman might face?

How can that be?

Does that mean an education and success is
worthless?

No. But it does mean that one doesn’t have
ANYTHING to do with the other.

Lots of women assume that since they’re
intelligent they can FIGURE OUT or solve any dumb
little dating or relationship dilemma.

They think that all it takes is enough focus
and determination and they’ll work everything out.

This couldn’t be farther from the truth.

You can’t “think” a man into feeling something
for you.

Just like you can’t get a man to treat you
differently just because you logically figured out
what’s wrong with him and let him know.

In fact, doing the latter is more likely to
have you standing alone in the cold than being
held tightly in his arms.

Being “right” doesn’t mean you’ll be loved.

REASON #2: BELIEVING IN THE “MEN DON’T LIKE
SUCCESSFUL WOMEN” MYTH

I can’t tell you how many women I talk to that
tell me how men are scared and turned off by, or
intimidated by, successful or independent women.

I get where they’re coming from, but they’ve
confused one thing for another.

The truth is, men DON’T DISLIKE successful
women. But they DON’T LIKE them either.

Let me explain…

It’s obvious in this day in age that being
successful and independent aren’t “male” qualities
that exclude women from being attractive if they
have them.

But here’s the thing…

Most men DON’T CARE how successful a woman is.

I literally mean it. They don’t care.

Here’s why:

No matter what a woman does for a living, and
no matter how much money she makes, none of that
is going to make a man FEEL anything for a woman.

Following me here?

Are you attracted to a man JUST because he’s
rich or successful or can buy whatever he wants?

Obviously not. A man’s success can add to his
appeal, but it doesn’t create it.

Men aren’t any different in how they feel about
women.

But lots of women who are successful, secretly
believe that their success should change how men
act around them.

And some women, just like men often do, start
to rely on their success to try and attract men.

The truth is, success isn’t going to turn a man
on or create a great situation.

If a woman doesn’t UNDERSTAND how to attract a
man and create a great relationship, becoming
successful isn’t going to change that.

But being a woman who LEARNS to ATTRACT men and
create the right situation for love AND also
happens to be successful will.

REASON #3: SUCCESS ITSELF WON’T GET YOU THERE

Being successful can be a nice quality or a
“bonus” about a woman, but inside a man’s mind,
success has nothing to do with whether or not he
feels ATTRACTION or LOVE.

But lots of successful women seem to be
disappointed by this.

Understandably, they’re frustrated that the
respect and status that they’ve earned at the
office or in life hasn’t translated over to their
love-life.

Even though in the back of their minds they
keep thinking that becoming successful has worked
for men all these years.

WRONG.

This isn’t how it works for men either, so let
me use that as an example.

Just because a man is successful or rich, a
genuine and open woman doesn’t care anything about
that.

She only cares about how he makes her FEEL.

Most women just want to know that a man makes
her FEEL ATTRACTED to him, and that he’s open and
loving and he’ll always be the strong and solid
person that he is today.

So even if a man is rich and handsome, if he
doesn’t LEARN to become a good partner who makes a
woman EXPERIENCE LOVE and FEEL ATTRACTION, then
the woman isnt going to respond.

Like it or not, it works the same way for
successful women.

Success won’t buy you love, affection or get
you shortcuts to a great situation with a man.

It just might help get you in the door.

REASON #4: ASSUMING THAT SUCCESS “STRATEGIES”
CROSS OVER TO MEN AND RELATIONSHIPS

Successful women have obviously found and used
smart “strategies” to get where they are with the
people around them.

They try and test all kinds of new ideas,
approaches, attitudes, etc. until they find what
works and then they stick with what’s best.

And things go great. It’s like they’ve got the
world and everyone around them all figured out.

That is, until they run into a “guy-problem”
and somehow everything seems to instantly go
whacko and stop working.

So they just take their best strategy and try
harder and harder at it, sure that it will work
since they’ve seen the world open up to them with
it.

But there’s no results this time and it’s a
total shock to the system.

Men are the WORST at doing this by the way.

Tons of husbands come home each night and try
to run their family and marriage with the logic
and efficiency that they use to make things work
in business.

How do you think that works out?

REASON #5: SUCCESSFUL WOMEN OFTEN “ACCIDENTALLY”
PREVENT MEN FROM NATURALLY FEELING ATTRACTION WITH
THEM

Have you ever thought about how a man falls in
love with a woman?

One of the most important and central elements
of love that takes a man from just “interested” to
“in love” with a woman is experiencing a LOSS of
CONTROL and the absence of PREDICTABILITY with the
woman.

And no, this doesn’t mean that he gives control
over to the woman and she has it.

I’ll explain…

When a man is experiencing ATTRACTION and
CHEMISTRY with a woman and he DOESN’T know exactly
what’s going to happen next, then everything
becomes terribly exciting.

And if the woman isn’t acting controlling or
manipulative, then there’s a “space” or “void”
that’s created between the man and woman.

It’s this natural “psychological space” that
moves the man closer and closer to the woman as
he’s trying close the “emotional gap” between
them.

Then the man begins to wonder what he can do to
win over more of the woman’s affections and
attention.

And it’s this out of control feeling and the
desire to fill in the gap between himself and the
woman that starts the classic patterns of love.

Unfortunately, lots of successful women get in
THEIR OWN WAY and prevent the natural patterns
that lead to love from taking place.

The most common way that successful women get
in their own way is when they starting doing
things to control each and every aspect of what’s
going on between her and the man.

*Cue the semi-obsessive behaviors like those
that the reader mentioned in her email.

Like plotting to be where a man will be and
then pretending to have “run into him”.

I think a lot of us can identify with that kind
of behavior in one way or another.

The problem with these kinds of behaviors is
that they do something damaging to us when we use
them.

These are self-manipulations that stir up all
kinds of anxiety and distance in your own mind.

AVOID THESE kinds of things, because they only
lead to more obsessive worrying and more plotting.

It’s part of what’s called a negative feedback
loop.

What’s most important here is that these
behaviors do an almost perfect job of destroying
the “tension” a man and a woman both feel when
there’s a “natural” flow of energy between them.

REASON #6: SUCCESSFUL WOMEN ARE USED TO BEING
IN CONTROL

Most mature women want to have a great
relationship and continually experience deep love
and intimacy once they’ve found a worthwhile and
attractive guy.

But often times their desire to have their
ideal situation is so strong that it can actually
drive them to try and CONTROL the situations
they’re in and the man they’re with.

Successful women have an uncanny ability to
pull together every aspect of their life and make
it work.

But what happens when successful women who have
been gracefully in control of their lives get into
a situation where they can’t CONTROL the outcome
and the other people involved?

What happens when there is NO LOGICAL SOLUTION
or straight-forward answer that will make things
work out the way they’re used to?

What happens when they get involved with a man
and things are no longer within their ability to
control?

In these situations, successful women often end
up feeling completely OUT OF CONTROL and begin to
panic.

And then FEAR kicks in because they’re not used
to not having total control of their environment.

So they start doing whatever they can think of
or what works for them in other situations in
order to try and get CONTROL back in their lives.

Of course, what they often do to try and regain
control is negative, fear-driven, and doesn’t take
into account the feelings and desires of the
man… and so it backfires.

The man freaks out, he sees her as “crazy” and
then he withdraws.

You might unfortunately already know that
story.

What’s fascinating here is that the woman’s
attempts to CONTROL are often more DESTRUCTIVE
than they are productive.

Trying to CONTROL how a man feels, what he
thinks and how he acts around them, not only
doesn’t usually work for women – it often works
AGAINST them and repels the man.

REASON #7: THEY FALL INTO THE TRAP OF USING
“MASCULINE ENERGY” TO SHAPE THEIR LOVE-LIFE

The energy, drive, focus and discipline that
can push women to success in their work can be a
potent force to create the outcomes they want.

Unfortunately, this same attitude and approach
DOESN’T translate over to getting outcomes women
might want with men, love and relationships.

In fact, this attitude often becomes an
obstacle to creating an intimate and loving
situation with a man.

Successful women often make the mistake of
approaching men and relationships with the same
kind of intensity and energy that they seek to
influence or control things at work.

They start to lead their interactions,
conversations and decisions with men with what I
call “masculine energy”.

This energy is very direct and purposeful and
it has an amazing ability to motivate and push us
to overcome and break through barriers.

But it isn’t the energy that creates an intense
and LASTING CONNECTION with a man.

The “feminine energy” is the energy that
attracts a man and can lead and TEACH him how and
why to stay open to a woman.

This feminine energy is what shows even the
most clueless and reckless of men how to become
great and loyal partners – just like it’s the
masculine energy that ATTRACTS women and shows
them a man’s strength, love and character.

Now, I’m not saying that women don’t and
shouldn’t have masculine energy. Lots of
attractive and interesting women are full of
masculine energy.

But I’ve learned that women can be VERY
SUCCESSFUL and have AMAZING LOVE LIVES by knowing
when to use masculine and feminine energy.

The key is awareness.

So let me ask you….

When a woman uses or leads her interactions
with a man with their more “masculine” energy,
what happens?

Most men aren’t able to open up or attach and
connect with a woman who’s meeting them with their
“masculine energy”.

It doesn’t make a man FEEL close, comfortable,
trusting and it doesn’t draw him in to connect
with her.

In fact, lots of men react NEGATIVELY to women
who present them with a lot of masculine energy.

When some women talk about men not liking
successful women, this is what they’re talking
about.

Men don’t like the masculine energy that a
woman is putting in place of something WAY MORE
IMPORTANT to a man:

How ATTRACTED he is to her and how she makes
him FEEL.

So let’s wrap this up for now…

One of the most critical things that I see
successful women “missing” in their interactions
with men, dating and relationships, is the idea of
creating “Intellectual Attraction” – and using
their natural “feminine energy” to do so.

A man might enjoy the idea of a woman being
successful, but it isn’t going to make him think
about her like he might a woman who pushes all his
male buttons.

A man doesn’t think, “Gee, she’s got a great
job, makes good money and doesn’t depend on anyone
else to support her, I think I’ll be into her.”

Actually, it’s the exact opposite.

A man sees or meets a woman and Wham!

He instantly falls for her, and he can’t
exactly explain why.

And that’s because there is no reason or logic
to why it happens – it happens inside a man’s
mind.

When a man becomes attracted and interested in
a woman, it’s because his FEELINGS and EMOTIONS
were TRIGGERED by something about the woman.

And no amount of logic, analyzing, convincing
or “success” in a woman’s life can control this.

If a man doesn’t FEEL IT for a woman, nothing
else will do the trick.

But if a woman CAN make a man feel attraction
for her, then it doesn’t matter how successful,
gorgeous or shapely she is.

After years or research and observations, I’ve
finally “cracked the code” on what actually works
to trigger ATTRACTION in men.

And you’d be surprised to learn that ANY WOMAN
can learn what these triggers are and how to start
learning to use them in her own life and
relationships.

Of course, I’m not just talking about that
“one-night stand” male kind of attraction.

That’s easy. Seduce a man.

I’m talking about the “long-term-he-stays-up-
all-night-thinks-about-her-all-the-time-and-does-
crazy-romantic-boyish-things-just-because-he-has-
to” attraction.

That deeper and more intimate “relationship
material” attraction.

I call this “Intellectual Attraction”.

In my ebook I talk about how any woman,
including an analytical, successful and driven
woman, can learn how to avoid all the common
obstacles to love that they put up in their lives
that men respond negatively to.

I discuss specific steps and theories about how
to find and identify that great guy, build intense
passion and attraction and turn all that into a
great long term situation with a man.

So what do you have to lose?

I’ll even let you try my ebook free just to see
if you like it.

If you don’t, all you have to do is email and
I’ll give you a full 100% refund… AND you can
still keep the book.

That means all YOU have to do is be willing to
open your mind to the idea that your love life can
be better than it is right now.

And believe that you can have the chemistry,
lasting attraction and love that you deserve.

So go check out my ebook for free and be on
your way to the next great phase of your love-life.

Go here now:

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And best of luck in life and love!

Your Friend,

Christian Carter

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SajaDuarte — Fri, 19 Feb 2010 04:16:07 +0000

What
Women HATE Most About Single Guys

By David DeAngelo

If you listen
to a group of attractive, single women talking alone over dinner or drinks, the
topic will always turn to MEN.

And in most cases, it will eventually turn into a RANT session about how hard
it is to find good men to date…

Which will lead to a FULL-ON RAG SESSION about men in general…

…And wind up with a detailed list of all the traits guys have that are ANNOYING
AS HELL.

The reality is that single women have an entire laundry list of traits, qualities,
and characteristics that they HATE in single guys.

Did you know this?

I didn’t think so.

Well, the truth is that up until a few years ago, I didn’t know this either.

So take heart in the idea that you’re about to learn something that most men on
this planet will DIE not knowing.

My hope is that what I’m about to share with you will change how you interact
with women FOREVER… and help you meet and date more of the kinds of women you’re
interested in.

Onward.

FRIENDSHIPS AND ROMANCE

For women, friendships and romantic relationships are two separate things. They
are NOT the same.

One can lead to another, but it’s RARE when it happens.

Remember that.

One CAN lead to another, but it’s RARE.

“Romantic” relationships are very different from “friend” relationships.

While most men would sleep with most of their female “friends” if the woman “came
on” to them, most women would NOT sleep with most men that they consider “just
friends”.

But why is this?

How do women differentiate between “just friends” and “I’ll be intimate with you”?

And why is it so hard to become “more than friends” with a woman you’ve been “just
friends” with for a long time?

The answer to this riddle is very interesting to me.

I believe that the answer comes down to understanding HOW women “know” when they
want to “be intimate” with a man… and, even MORE
importantly, understanding how women “know” when they DON’T want to “be intimate”
with a man…

The thing that tells a woman whether the guy she’s with is “friend” material or
“lover” material is how she FEELS.

It’s a combination of EMOTIONAL feelings and PHYSICAL feelings.

It is NOT logic.

She might USE logic to “rationalize” her decision… or she might USE logic to
SOUND like she has a good reason for either “being with” or
“not being with” a particular guy.

But don’t let that distract you.

Logic isn’t important AT ALL in this context.

So let me say this another way.

A woman FEELS something emotionally and/or physically, then she uses those FEELINGS
as the basis for her “decisions” and actions with a
particular guy.

If she feels that “Ewwww Yuck!” feeling, then her “logical” conclusion will probably
not be that she wants to date the guy in question.

If she feels that “It’s Gettin’ Hot In Here” feeling, then her “logical” conclusion
will probably be that this guy is interesting and attractive, and a good “choice”
to date. At this point she’ll take ACTION on her feelings and thoughts…

It goes like this:

FEEL—>THINK—>ACT

First the FEELING, then the THOUGHT… and THEN the action.

Now, with this in mind, let me ask you an important question:

How do most guys behave around women that they’re “romantically” interested in?

And another:

What do they do to get the woman that’s the object of their desires to be with
them?

Take a few minutes to think about this. Make a list if you have paper and pen
handy.

I’m serious. I’ll wait.

Come back when you’re finished.

Now take a look at your list.

I’ll bet that almost every single thing on your list was something “external”.

In other words, your list probably contains things like “Take her to dinner” and
“Give her compliments” and “Buy her flowers” and “Call
her often”.

These are all things that demonstrate that he’s INTERESTED.

They are NOT things that trigger those emotional and physical feelings inside
of a woman that tell her that THIS IS THE GUY.

In other words, men try to use “props” to LET A WOMAN KNOW HE’S INTERESTED…

…HOPING that when the woman sees these displays she’ll be interested in him.

Almost NONE of the things men do to court women make women FEEL ANYTHING even
remotely similar to “Attraction” and “Arousal”.

Of course, you know this.

You’ve probably done this stuff about a bazillion times. I have, too. I know what
it’s like to try OVER AND OVER to let a particular woman know that I’m interested…
only to have her NOT RESPOND in a “romantic” way.

The PROBLEM with this kind of thing is that it makes TWO HUGE MISTAKES at once.

First, it’s just the plain-old wrong way to go. Telling or showing a woman that
you “like her” has no effect on how she feels about YOU.

In the moment it sure seems to make sense… “If I show her how I feel, she’ll
return the feelings”.

Duh.

Like I said, it seems like the right thing to do in the moment (when your inner
little girl has a big fat crush). But it’s not… it will have NO effect on her
feelings for you.

And second, it communicates clearly that YOU DON’T GET IT. It tips a woman off
INSTANTLY that you’re not hip to what’s going… and it
kills your chances with her.

Say what?

You mean that doing nice things for women, and trying to show how you feel can
actually HURT your chances with a woman?

Yea, it can.

Look, if you’ve been dating a woman exclusively for six months, and her birthday
comes… it’s OK to buy her a gift and tell her that you like spending time with
her.

YOU’RE ALREADY IN A RELATIONSHIP.

But if you’ve known a woman for six DAYS and you try this kind of thing, you’re
going to shoot yourself in the foot.

Women are EXPERTS at recognizing men who DON’T GET IT. And if you DON’T get it,
PLUS you’re trying to compensate for the fact that
you don’t get it with gifts and compliments, then you’re REALLY screwed (or not
screwed, as the case may be).

Remember what I’m about to tell you.

Burn it into your mind.

Write it on a sticky-note and put it on your computer monitor…

SINGLE, ATTRACTIVE WOMEN WATCH MEN TRY TO WIN THEM OVER ALL DAY LONG. THEY KNOW
WHEN A GUY DOESN’T “GET IT”… AND
THEY’RE ANNOYED WHEN A GUY WHO DOESN’T “GET IT” JUST KEEPS TRYING AND TRYING AND
TRYING.

Keep in mind that single, attractive women watch guys do this stuff 24/7. They
shake their pretty heads and say “He doesn’t get it… He doesn’t get it… He
doesn’t get it” over and over and over.

The point is that if you DON’T GET IT, then nothing you do is going to work for
you.

The problem is bigger than you can imagine, and you’re going to need to take a
totally different road to get where you’re going…

WHAT ATTRACTIVE WOMEN HATE MOST ABOUT SINGLE GUYS…

Let’s return to where we started.

There are a few particular things that REALLY annoy single, attractive women.

One of the reasons that these things annoy women is because they’re DEAL KILLERS.

A woman can like everything about you, but if you do these things (or even ONE
of these things), it can DESTROY your chances of success with a particular woman.

Here are a few of the BIG things that single women hate:

1) Giving Up Your Status In Exchange For Her Attention And Approval

If I had to describe the one single thing that both annoys women and DESTROYS
a guy’s chances, it would be this.

It has taken me a long time to see this particular pattern, but it’s EVERYWHERE.

Men, in effect, say “Hi, I want your approval and attention. I’m willing to let
YOU be the one who’s in control… and let YOU call the shots… and do anything
to please YOU… if you’ll give me your attention and
approval”.

But the problem is that women DON’T WANT you to give up your status and “manliness”.

Women aren’t ATTRACTED to men who act weak and tentative.

Women secretly HATE IT when a guy does something to demonstrate that he’ll give
away his power in return for approval.

THEY HATE IT!

I could literally write an entire book on this one single concept.

Take a few minutes to think this one over, and maybe write down the ways that
you make this mistake with women.

More importantly, think about how you’re going to STOP DOING IT IMMEDIATELY.

2) Being Needy, Clingy, And Insecure

When one person “clings” to another person “psychologically”, the person who is
being “clinged to” RESENTS and REJECTS the needy,
clingy emotional parasite…

This is WUSS behavior at its worst.

If a guy is on the phone with a girl he just met, and she says “Hey, I have to
go”, he might say “Aw, well… um… OK. Um, will you call me when you get home?”.

Or let’s say a guy and a girl are out on their first date, and they’re walking
around in a large department store.

Most guys will follow the woman everywhere, and not leave her side for a minute.

If she wanders away, he’ll come find her IMMEDIATELY.

He’ll stay physically close to her, as if he’s afraid she’ll leave without him.

And an even worse example is a guy who is so emotionally insecure that he actually
ASKS a woman to tell him that he’s nice, fun, interesting, etc.

“Do you think I’m interesting?”

“Do you think we could ever have a relationship?”

“Am I your type?”

Women HATE this stuff. It makes them shiver with the heebie-jeebies. It makes
them want to RUN AWAY.

3) Not Leading – And Even Worse, Trying To Get Her To Lead

Women have WUSS-DAR.

One of the things that triggers a woman’s WUSS-DAR is a man who FOLLOWS.

The REAL problem is that most women won’t try to LEAD naturally.

So you’ve got a situation where a man is trying to FOLLOW a woman who isn’t LEADING.

He’s looking for little cues so he knows where to go and what to do… but he
isn’t getting them.

So what does he do?

He ASKS for them!

He says “So, I was thinking of maybe taking you to Olive Garden for dinner…
how does that sound?”.

Everything about the way he asks says to the woman “I’m trying to figure out what
you want me to do… please help me know how you want me to act, where you want
me to take you, and what you want me to say”.

This is ATTRACTION DEATH!

men who don’t lead, and even worse, try to get a woman to lead, ANNOY THE HELL
OUT OF SINGLE WOMEN.

They HATE IT!

4) Using Insecure, Approval-Seeking, Low-Status Posture, Gestures, Voice Tone,
And Body Language

There’s a term that single, attractive, in-demand women use to describe men who
use weak, approval-seeking posture, gestures,
comments, and mannerisms…

The term is “NICE”.

“He’s nice… but… there’s no chemistry.”

This is one of those areas that’s not easy to talk about.

Since SO DAMN MANY GUYS do this stuff, it’s almost impossible to explain.

It’s like trying to tell a fish that they’re not going to get anywhere in life
if they stay wet.

The fish doesn’t even KNOW it’s wet in the first place.

But let me try.

This is important.

Go spend a day observing couples.

Go places where couples that have just met spend time together.

Bars, clubs, coffee shops, whatever.

Now watch the GUYS.

Watch how they lean towards the women.

Watch how they raise their eyebrows in

exaggerated response to women’s comments.

Watch how they slump over, let their shoulders fall forward, and smile fake-ly
at whatever the women say.

If you’re close enough, listen to how men ask questions and make comments with
a voice tone that says “I’m insecure and I’m trying
to be extra nice to compensate for it”.

You’ll see it EVERYWHERE.

In fact, you’ll see it so much that you’ll probably write me back to tell me that
I’m the one who’s crazy, and that since it happens so much, it must be “the right
way”.

Well, it’s not.

If there’s one thing that triggers an attractive single woman’s WUSS-DAR, it’s
a man’s posture, gestures, eye contact, voice tone, etc.

It all happens in an INSTANT.

Women read this stuff and interpret it as instantly and accurately as you read
and interpret the cover of Playboy.

NO ANALYSIS NECESSARY.

I’d say that probably 90% of all men alive today INSTANTLY disqualify themselves
with women because of this problem.

Their voice tone, gestures, posture, etc. TELEGRAPH the message that they’re a
WUSS.

They do a thousand weird little things to let a woman know that they’re uncomfortable
and “not being themselves”.

And you guessed it…

Single women HATE IT!

5) Not Understanding That She’s A Woman And You’re A Man

I’m about to get philosophical on your ass, so be cool.

When it comes down to it, most men don’t understand women.

But the REAL kicker is that most men don’t understand MEN, either!

Most guys don’t know what it’s like to get in touch with their MALE NATURE.

Combine these two issues, and you get a guy who behaves in ways that DO NOT trigger
ATTRACTION in women.

Women have a “nature”. A female nature.

Men also have a “nature”. You guessed it, it’s a MALE nature.

Women are coy. They like to play hard to get. They like to enjoy the chase. They
love anticipation. They love to “let a guy catch them”…

Men are competitive. Men are dominant. Men like to play rough games, win things,
and rule their territory.

Well guess what?

Most men don’t BEHAVE like men when they’re in the presence of a woman that they
“like”.

And since most men don’t understand female human nature, they don’t demonstrate
that they “get it” when they’re with women that they “like”.

Women like men. Men like women. There are POWERFUL causes at play here.

When you’re around a woman you like, don’t act like a GIRLY-MAN. It’s not sexy,
and it’s not attractive…

And single women HATE IT!

6) Not Being Interesting To Be Around

Underneath most behavior that I see most guys acting out is a “core belief” that
goes like this:

“I don’t believe that an attractive woman would want to be around me just because
she enjoys my presence… so I make up for it by saying and doing certain things
that I hope she’ll enjoy… and if she enjoys those
other things enough, then maybe she’ll want to spend more time with me.”

Heavy, man.

Well guess what? Most attractive single women KNOW that if a guy isn’t interesting
to be around, they she’s eventually going to go CRAZY being around him.

In other words, no amount of material gifts, compliments, dinners, and other “displays”
will EVER compensate for a lack of BEING INTERESTING.

Here’s a profound thought:

I and several other guys I know have many women who call us often… just because
they enjoy being around us.

These women would be happy just to be in the same room with us… and enjoy our
company.

And yes, these women CALL US.

Often.

Material gifts, food, flowers, and other “displays” have ZERO lasting value to
a woman when it comes to how she FEELS about you…

An attractive single woman wants a guy who LIGHTS HER UP. She wants to FEEL GOOD.

She wants mystery… she wants to laugh… she wants a challenge… she wants
sexual tension…

If you’re using compliments, gifts, food, and other “displays” to get a woman’s
attention… you need to ask yourself a tough question:

Is it because you don’t believe that a woman would want to be around you just
to be around you?

Because if you don’t know how to be INTERESTING to a woman, then no amount of
compensation is going to fix the problem.

If you’re boring, predictable, and uninteresting, then you’re never going to have
women calling YOU to hang out.

Oh, and women HATE IT.

7) Not Understanding Attraction

This is a BIGGIE.

You hear me talking about it all the time, right?

Maybe now that you’ve read this newsletter you’ll have a better context to understand
what I’m about to tell you…

If you “get it” with women, it’s SUPER INTERESTING and ATTRACTIVE to them.

Women can INSTANTLY FEEL IT when they’re with a guy who “gets it”.

Women know very quickly if they’re talking to a guy who understands himself and
women… and who enjoys creating and building sexual tension.

Women know if a guy speaks the SECRET LANGUAGE of “Sexual Communication”.

If he doesn’t, then she stops all communication on that level.

If he does, then it continues.

ATTRACTION Isn’t A Choice.

Attraction is an emotional and physical RESPONSE… and you can’t “convince” a
woman to feel it with logic, gifts, and NICENESS.

Attraction is the result of a woman meeting a man who understands how attraction
works… and who knows what to do in each specific
situation to progress to the next level.

The PROBLEM with ATTRACTION, and with success with women in general is that the
things you need to DO to be successful are NOT
OBVIOUS.

They’re “counter intuitive”, in many cases.

In other words, they’re the OPPOSITE of what you’d THINK would make sense.

You have to do things like CREATE TENSION… stop doing something that she likes…
give her time to miss you… etc.

And if you don’t understand ATTRACTION, a woman is going to KNOW IT.

And guess what?

Single women HATE IT when a man doesn’t understand ATTRACTION and how to communicate
on this “other level”.

Now that I’ve shared the mistakes, you need the next piece of the puzzle. You
need to get an education on how attraction works for women… and the RIGHT things
to do up front to give her those emotional/physical feelings inside.

Right now you’re probably feeling that excited “Ah Ha!” feeling.

That’s because you understand something at a different level… you’ve used your
mind to understand something complex… and you feel good about bettering yourself.

Well this is just the TIP of the iceberg.

As educational as this has been, this is only the beginning.

If you’re starting to realize how important it is to get this area of your life
handled, then I recommend you make a commitment and take your education to a WORLD
CLASS level.

And what’s the best way to do that?

Well, I’ve spent the last several years of my life figuring out exactly what does
and doesn’t work with women.

I figured this stuff out for MYSELF… and then I took what I’ve learned and put
it all together to help others learn as well.

My Double Your Dating eBook represents THOUSANDS of hours of research, testing,
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Older Women Looking for Younger Men

SajaDuarte — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 13:10:34 +0000

Many older women get off on dating younger men. So whats the attraction, and what do they get out of it? Why are so many older women looking for younger men?

They say that nothing keeps you feeling young, like a young man does. Its probably the biggest boost that you can give to your ego and the biggest boost to your self-esteem too.

We all hate the idea of growing older; losing our looks and our figures; and anything we can do to ward it off can only be for the good. But remember the saying that youre only as old as you feel, and I know lots of women who dont feel a day over thirty.

But I have found that the best way of continuing to feel young (and to look young too) is; keeping fit, eating a healthy diet, and going out with younger men.

Keeping fit means aerobics three or four times a week; and by the way, going down to the gym is actually a good place to scout out the talent. The diets the thing I really hate but its just got to be done to keep looking trim.

But nothing quite equals the buzz I get from going out dating with younger guys. To know that a younger guy still finds me attractive enough to date is a real boost to my ego.

Theyre such fun too. Some of the guys of my own age are quite stuffy, and when it comes to going out, a restaurant is about as exciting as it gets, whereas with my younger men friends I get to go out dancing too and thats something I really love.

But when all is said and done, older women looking for younger men is all about sex. Its just about the biggest turn on in the world to go with a virile young man who is eager to please.

But I personally find its better to try and keep the relationships fairly low key. The one thing I dont want to happen is to fall head over heels in love with some young guy, only to find that in a few years time, when our age difference really will tell, that I am going to be left high and dry.

A forty or fifty year old woman can still look very smart and attractive to a young guy in his early twenties, but if you add twenty years onto your ages, you are not going to look so attractive at 60 or 70 years of age to a guy in his early forties.

So my advice to older women looking for younger men, is to keep cool and dont fall in love. Theres nothing wrong with sex for the sake of sex between two willing adults who both know what theyre doing, especially if youre both single.

Times have moved on quite a bit since the stuffy old days when noses would have put out of joint. Today, everything is a lot more relaxed, and many more things are simply accepted for what they are; a bit of fun providing no one gets hurt – and you can bet your bottom dollar that most young men are only too ready experience sex with older, more experienced, attractive lady.

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How To Meet Cougar Women Online

DickJergen — Fri, 06 Mar 2009 13:18:46 +0000

Hey Dick Jergen here again, and I recently met a guy who’s met and gone out with over 390 women online. He was gracious enough to give me some tips on just how he got his success.

It’s hard enough to met women in a tradional manner, but online can be tougher. There can be a lot of mistrust and overly cautious women who may think you’re a creep (I don’t necessarily blame them for this thinking).

But this guy Dave, really got me to deal with a lot of my mistakes and has put me on the fast track of being a total stud!

Anyways this guy Dave, who between you and I, is no casanova lookin’ dude, received over 4,600 emails from women online over the last 4 years. Out of those women, over 90% of them gave him their phone numbers, which he as able to establish 398 dates (and counting) for this guy!

Of course, these numbers seems a bit unbelieveable is what I thought, especially seeing the looks of this Dave dude.

Anyways to read his full story on how he went out with women (a lot of them were older women looking to date younger guys) follow the links to his page.

I’m really surprised on how well I am doing, and I owe it to a video like the one you’ll see on how this guy did it!

Look you’ve got nothing to lose, this guy is even giving away a free audio recording on some of his techiques on how he went on dates with many of these hot older women and how he has had success over time using the same techniques he explains on his video on audio stuff.

Check it out,

Dick Jergen

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