Cougar Dating Tips And Advice
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What By David DeAngelo If you listen
to a group of attractive, single women talking alone over dinner or drinks, the topic will always turn to MEN.
And in most cases, it will eventually turn into a RANT session about how hard Which will lead to a FULL-ON RAG SESSION about men in general… …And wind up with a detailed list of all the traits guys have that are ANNOYING The reality is that single women have an entire laundry list of traits, qualities, Did you know this? I didn’t think so. Well, the truth is that up until a few years ago, I didn’t know this either. So take heart in the idea that you’re about to learn something that most men on My hope is that what I’m about to share with you will change how you interact Onward. FRIENDSHIPS AND ROMANCE For women, friendships and romantic relationships are two separate things. They One can lead to another, but it’s RARE when it happens. Remember that. One CAN lead to another, but it’s RARE. “Romantic” relationships are very different from “friend” relationships. While most men would sleep with most of their female “friends” if the woman “came But why is this? How do women differentiate between “just friends” and “I’ll be intimate with you”? And why is it so hard to become “more than friends” with a woman you’ve been “just The answer to this riddle is very interesting to me. I believe that the answer comes down to understanding HOW women “know” when they The thing that tells a woman whether the guy she’s with is “friend” material or It’s a combination of EMOTIONAL feelings and PHYSICAL feelings. It is NOT logic. She might USE logic to “rationalize” her decision… or she might USE logic to But don’t let that distract you. Logic isn’t important AT ALL in this context. So let me say this another way. A woman FEELS something emotionally and/or physically, then she uses those FEELINGS If she feels that “Ewwww Yuck!” feeling, then her “logical” conclusion will probably If she feels that “It’s Gettin’ Hot In Here” feeling, then her “logical” conclusion It goes like this: FEEL—>THINK—>ACT First the FEELING, then the THOUGHT… and THEN the action. Now, with this in mind, let me ask you an important question: How do most guys behave around women that they’re “romantically” interested in? And another: What do they do to get the woman that’s the object of their desires to be with Take a few minutes to think about this. Make a list if you have paper and pen I’m serious. I’ll wait. Come back when you’re finished. Now take a look at your list. I’ll bet that almost every single thing on your list was something “external”. In other words, your list probably contains things like “Take her to dinner” and These are all things that demonstrate that he’s INTERESTED. They are NOT things that trigger those emotional and physical feelings inside In other words, men try to use “props” to LET A WOMAN KNOW HE’S INTERESTED… …HOPING that when the woman sees these displays she’ll be interested in him. Almost NONE of the things men do to court women make women FEEL ANYTHING even Of course, you know this. You’ve probably done this stuff about a bazillion times. I have, too. I know what The PROBLEM with this kind of thing is that it makes TWO HUGE MISTAKES at once. First, it’s just the plain-old wrong way to go. Telling or showing a woman that In the moment it sure seems to make sense… “If I show her how I feel, she’ll Duh. Like I said, it seems like the right thing to do in the moment (when your inner And second, it communicates clearly that YOU DON’T GET IT. It tips a woman off Say what? You mean that doing nice things for women, and trying to show how you feel can Yea, it can. Look, if you’ve been dating a woman exclusively for six months, and her birthday YOU’RE ALREADY IN A RELATIONSHIP. But if you’ve known a woman for six DAYS and you try this kind of thing, you’re Women are EXPERTS at recognizing men who DON’T GET IT. And if you DON’T get it, Remember what I’m about to tell you. Burn it into your mind. Write it on a sticky-note and put it on your computer monitor… SINGLE, ATTRACTIVE WOMEN WATCH MEN TRY TO WIN THEM OVER ALL DAY LONG. THEY KNOW Keep in mind that single, attractive women watch guys do this stuff 24/7. They The point is that if you DON’T GET IT, then nothing you do is going to work for The problem is bigger than you can imagine, and you’re going to need to take a WHAT ATTRACTIVE WOMEN HATE MOST ABOUT SINGLE GUYS… Let’s return to where we started. There are a few particular things that REALLY annoy single, attractive women. One of the reasons that these things annoy women is because they’re DEAL KILLERS. A woman can like everything about you, but if you do these things (or even ONE Here are a few of the BIG things that single women hate: 1) Giving Up Your Status In Exchange For Her Attention And Approval If I had to describe the one single thing that both annoys women and DESTROYS It has taken me a long time to see this particular pattern, but it’s EVERYWHERE. Men, in effect, say “Hi, I want your approval and attention. I’m willing to let But the problem is that women DON’T WANT you to give up your status and “manliness”. Women aren’t ATTRACTED to men who act weak and tentative. Women secretly HATE IT when a guy does something to demonstrate that he’ll give THEY HATE IT! I could literally write an entire book on this one single concept. Take a few minutes to think this one over, and maybe write down the ways that More importantly, think about how you’re going to STOP DOING IT IMMEDIATELY. 2) Being Needy, Clingy, And Insecure This is WUSS behavior at its worst. If a guy is on the phone with a girl he just met, and she says “Hey, I have to Or let’s say a guy and a girl are out on their first date, and they’re walking Most guys will follow the woman everywhere, and not leave her side for a minute. If she wanders away, he’ll come find her IMMEDIATELY. He’ll stay physically close to her, as if he’s afraid she’ll leave without him. And an even worse example is a guy who is so emotionally insecure that he actually “Do you think I’m interesting?” “Do you think we could ever have a relationship?” “Am I your type?” Women HATE this stuff. It makes them shiver with the heebie-jeebies. It makes 3) Not Leading – And Even Worse, Trying To Get Her To Lead Women have WUSS-DAR. One of the things that triggers a woman’s WUSS-DAR is a man who FOLLOWS. The REAL problem is that most women won’t try to LEAD naturally. So you’ve got a situation where a man is trying to FOLLOW a woman who isn’t LEADING. He’s looking for little cues so he knows where to go and what to do… but he So what does he do? He ASKS for them! He says “So, I was thinking of maybe taking you to Olive Garden for dinner… Everything about the way he asks says to the woman “I’m trying to figure out what This is ATTRACTION DEATH! men who don’t lead, and even worse, try to get a woman to lead, ANNOY THE HELL They HATE IT! 4) Using Insecure, Approval-Seeking, Low-Status Posture, Gestures, Voice Tone, There’s a term that single, attractive, in-demand women use to describe men who The term is “NICE”. “He’s nice… but… there’s no chemistry.” This is one of those areas that’s not easy to talk about. Since SO DAMN MANY GUYS do this stuff, it’s almost impossible to explain. It’s like trying to tell a fish that they’re not going to get anywhere in life The fish doesn’t even KNOW it’s wet in the first place. But let me try. This is important. Go spend a day observing couples. Go places where couples that have just met spend time together. Bars, clubs, coffee shops, whatever. Now watch the GUYS. Watch how they lean towards the women.
Watch how they raise their eyebrows in exaggerated response to women’s comments.
Watch how they slump over, let their shoulders fall forward, and smile fake-ly If you’re close enough, listen to how men ask questions and make comments with You’ll see it EVERYWHERE. In fact, you’ll see it so much that you’ll probably write me back to tell me that Well, it’s not. If there’s one thing that triggers an attractive single woman’s WUSS-DAR, it’s It all happens in an INSTANT. Women read this stuff and interpret it as instantly and accurately as you read NO ANALYSIS NECESSARY. I’d say that probably 90% of all men alive today INSTANTLY disqualify themselves Their voice tone, gestures, posture, etc. TELEGRAPH the message that they’re a They do a thousand weird little things to let a woman know that they’re uncomfortable And you guessed it… Single women HATE IT! 5) Not Understanding That She’s A Woman And You’re A Man I’m about to get philosophical on your ass, so be cool. When it comes down to it, most men don’t understand women. But the REAL kicker is that most men don’t understand MEN, either! Most guys don’t know what it’s like to get in touch with their MALE NATURE. Combine these two issues, and you get a guy who behaves in ways that DO NOT trigger Women have a “nature”. A female nature. Men also have a “nature”. You guessed it, it’s a MALE nature. Women are coy. They like to play hard to get. They like to enjoy the chase. They Men are competitive. Men are dominant. Men like to play rough games, win things, Well guess what? Most men don’t BEHAVE like men when they’re in the presence of a woman that they And since most men don’t understand female human nature, they don’t demonstrate Women like men. Men like women. There are POWERFUL causes at play here. When you’re around a woman you like, don’t act like a GIRLY-MAN. It’s not sexy, And single women HATE IT! 6) Not Being Interesting To Be Around Underneath most behavior that I see most guys acting out is a “core belief” that “I don’t believe that an attractive woman would want to be around me just because Heavy, man. Well guess what? Most attractive single women KNOW that if a guy isn’t interesting In other words, no amount of material gifts, compliments, dinners, and other “displays” Here’s a profound thought: I and several other guys I know have many women who call us often… just because These women would be happy just to be in the same room with us… and enjoy our And yes, these women CALL US. Often. Material gifts, food, flowers, and other “displays” have ZERO lasting value to An attractive single woman wants a guy who LIGHTS HER UP. She wants to FEEL GOOD. She wants mystery… she wants to laugh… she wants a challenge… she wants If you’re using compliments, gifts, food, and other “displays” to get a woman’s Is it because you don’t believe that a woman would want to be around you just Because if you don’t know how to be INTERESTING to a woman, then no amount of If you’re boring, predictable, and uninteresting, then you’re never going to have Oh, and women HATE IT. 7) Not Understanding Attraction This is a BIGGIE. You hear me talking about it all the time, right? Maybe now that you’ve read this newsletter you’ll have a better context to understand If you “get it” with women, it’s SUPER INTERESTING and ATTRACTIVE to them. Women can INSTANTLY FEEL IT when they’re with a guy who “gets it”. Women know very quickly if they’re talking to a guy who understands himself and Women know if a guy speaks the SECRET LANGUAGE of “Sexual Communication”. If he doesn’t, then she stops all communication on that level. If he does, then it continues. ATTRACTION Isn’t A Choice. Attraction is an emotional and physical RESPONSE… and you can’t “convince” a Attraction is the result of a woman meeting a man who understands how attraction The PROBLEM with ATTRACTION, and with success with women in general is that the They’re “counter intuitive”, in many cases. In other words, they’re the OPPOSITE of what you’d THINK would make sense. You have to do things like CREATE TENSION… stop doing something that she likes… And if you don’t understand ATTRACTION, a woman is going to KNOW IT. And guess what? Single women HATE IT when a man doesn’t understand ATTRACTION and how to communicate Now that I’ve shared the mistakes, you need the next piece of the puzzle. You Right now you’re probably feeling that excited “Ah Ha!” feeling. That’s because you understand something at a different level… you’ve used your Well this is just the TIP of the iceberg. As educational as this has been, this is only the beginning. 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