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It can seem like it’s your mom’s job to mortify you. But a new wave of moms is doing more than making you blush: They act so sexy and flirtatious, they make you question their judgment — and your own sanity.

When Bri, 16, started high school, she thought it was cool that her mom was so much fun to hang out with. "My parents got divorced when I was 6, but high school is when it actually started to seem like a good thing — I was grateful to have a mom who wanted to shop at the same places and see the same movies I was into," she says. "I felt like we suddenly had so much in common, and I could tell her anything and she’d understand." But after a few months of sharing clothes and gossip, things started to take a turn for the worse: Bri’s mom went from shopping at the same stores as Bri did…to flirting with the same guys. "Now I can’t go anywhere without her flirting with every guy she meets. One of her recent boyfriends was 23. After that, she started going to my brother’s hockey games to flirt with his coach — who’s 12 years younger than she is — and they started dating." Bri says she wishes her mom would change — but not because it embarrasses her in front of her friends. "The truth is that my friends think my mom is so cool and pretty, and my guy friends think she’s sexy. My ex-boyfriend used to joke about getting with her! But I don’t want my crushes crushing on my mom. I feel like I have to keep her away from my new boyfriend to keep him from paying more attention to her than to me."

Bri’s mom is the perfect example of a cougar: an older woman who’s into (and almost seems to hunt down!) way younger guys. Lots of girls say their moms are on a cougar kick too: Meghan, 17, says her 46-year-old mom dated the same guy who’d dated one of her 18-year-old friends; Hunter, 18, sometimes feels as if her friends like her cougar mom more than they like her; and Jessica, 16, reports that ever since her parents got divorced last year, her mom "dresses up in short skirts and dates guys who are barely 25, then tells me everything about her sex life. It’s so awkward." The truth is that you want to be open with your mom — but it feels unsettling if she’s that open with you.

Cougar Nation

Of course, not all cougar moms — in real life or in Hollywood — have completely crossed the line. Take Courteney Cox’s character, Jules, on Cougar Town: She’s the kind of mom who, like so many out there, get out of a bad marriage and just want to look and feel their best. Maybe the cougar mom you know got married young and never had a chance to date around. Or maybe since her kids are busy with school and their own social lives and don’t need her as much anymore, she needs something to fill her time. All that freedom also explains why she has more time to take care of herself — shopping, working out, Botoxing…whatever it takes to look and feel young. "My mom had me at a young age and had to step up to the plate and take care of me. Now that I’m older, my mom loves to party, shop, and date, and I don’t have a problem with it," says De’Junique, 17. "It’s nice to have a mom who’s young and outgoing. I call her my Triple Threat — she’s a mom, a best friend, and like a sister. I can tell her anything, and even my friends tell her personal stuff."

Wild Cougars

Still, girls who are cool with cougar moms are the exception: The majority of girls who shared their stories with Seventeen wished their moms would change their embarrassing ways. Take Erica, 17. After her parents split up two years ago, her mom dyed her hair blonde and started wearing clothes "so tight they could be mistaken for a second skin." But that wasn’t as traumatizing as what she says her mom started doing next: partying all night at clubs and sometimes not even coming home. After a few months, Erica says her mom even drained Erica’s college tuition money to buy herself breast implants. "One night, a friend called to tell me she saw my mom leave a club with some guy," Erica says. "Hours after the call, my mom still wasn’t home, so I made my dad drive around town with me to look for her — I was worried she could be hurt or in an accident." When Erica arrived at the club to look for her mom, she found her — in a car, hooking up with a guy who’d recently graduated from Erica’s high school! "I was so humiliated and angry. I shouldn’t have to be a 17-year-old babysitting a 40-year-old woman. It’s not cool at all to have a cougar mom. I feel totally robbed of being a teenager."

Not only does having a cougar mom make you feel like you’re not getting your fair chance to be the "kid" in the family, but it also makes you feel uncomfortable to be competing with your mom. Plus your mom is supposed to be the one reassuring you that you’re gorgeous and awesome — but if she’s the one who needs constant reassurance, it can make you feel even more insecure and upset. But some moms do change. Jessica, 17, says that after her parents’ divorce, her mom was a total cougar. "She started dressing younger than she was and went through younger boyfriends like crazy," Jessica says. "I felt like her new life was more important to her than I was. But one day when she came out wearing a fishnet tube top and super-short shorts with three-inch heels, I flat out told her, ‘Mom, you look like a hooker.’ She treated it like a huge wake-up call, and it got us talking. I told her I understood it was hard to be single, but that she’d changed too much from the mom I could depend on, and that I missed her. Soon after that, everything changed: She broke up with her boyfriend, got a job, started acting her age, and made me a priority." Jessica says her mom is now showing her that she’s worthy of being trusted and looked up to. So maybe the secret to getting your mom to understand you is to try to understand her. Show her that you accept and love her — without judgment — and without any makeup, extensions, or that miniskirt you just know she borrowed from your closet.

Get Your Mom Back!

Here are the keys to having a great relationship with your mom — no matter what. Step 1 Have girl time: Instead of screaming at your mom or avoiding her altogether, ask her to set aside 20 minutes for the two of you this weekend — to go for a walk or for coffee or just to sit down in your living room. Step 2 Tell her what you need. Say: "When you act like this [tell her specifically what she does that upsets you], it makes me feel uncomfortable." Remind her that you need and love her. That will make her more open to your feelings, and less likely to feel defensive. Step 3 Don’t give up. If you don’t feel like you’re getting through to her, talk to someone else. You may feel embarrassed or protective of your mom, and not want to make her seem like a bad parent. But in the end, any mom-daughter relationship will be stronger and more genuine if you deal with your frustrations — instead of ignoring them or resenting her. By Dan Koday

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Cougar Dating Advice: Why Successful Women Fail With Men

SajaDuarte — Sun, 21 Mar 2010 08:23:00 +0000

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Dating Advice:
Why Successful Women
Fail With Men

Hey,

Have you ever thought that some men just don’t
like strong smart women like you?

What’s up with that!?

Are men that weak and immature?

Well, let me ask you an important question
about the men and love in your life.

By the way, how you answer this question could
tell the difference between finding a fun, loving
and almost effortless relationship that works out
in the long term.

Or…

Being single and lonely because every man you
get close to ends up resisting and withdrawing
from the love and connection you know could be
there.

So here’s the important question I have for
you:

Does not having the love and relationship you
truly want in your life change how you act as a
woman?

Think about it for a second.

I’m asking, because I recently got an amazing
email.

In the email, a woman shares her realization
about herself and men that has changed her
attitude and perspective about love for the
better.

Check out her FASCINATING email….

>>>> Email From A Reader

Christian,

I found your book to be incredibly interesting and
quite insightful. Lots of moments of clarity on a
subject that is, at least for me, fairly foggy.
While I’m not exactly new to the dating game, each
experience I have had with dating, boyfriends and
even a fiancée has turned up new and exciting
horror stories. And then all of a sudden, I think
I see the light. In reading your notes about women
who subconsciously send signals of essentially
being too interested and men’s responses to them,
I totally saw myself.

While I am more than a little reserved about an
outright appearance of “needy” (I’m a very
attractive, well educated, highly successful woman
and I don’t NEED anyone…right??) I suddenly
realize, after reading your book, that my inner
emotional state is actually very high-pressure,
even if I try (probably unsuccessfully) to hide
it. It’s my inner control freak taking over. I
find myself dressing a little nicer when I think I
might run into the boy-du-jour. Positioning myself
in places where I might “run into” him (I swear
I’m not a stalker, but I think most women actually
engage in this kind of ridiculousness).
Fantasizing about my life with him in it. And all
of a sudden, there I am, trying to take control
and ensure the proper development of this
“relationship”. (of course- I’m always in control,
right? That’s how i’ve gotten so far in my career
and other areas of life…) And then,
inexplicably, the more I try to control the
situation by impatiently interfering with the
natural flow of things, the more I lose my
patience and emotional cool. My long-winded point
is, that prior to reading your book, I had not
been able to step back from my own issues enough
to realize that my “control” was actually making
me lose control.

Amazingly, this explains not only my own
relationship breakdowns, but those of most of my
gorgeous, successful girlfriends who also seem to
have no luck with men. We have successfully built
careers (and great figures) with hard work,
persistence, and ultimately achieving control of
our situations. It’s a pattern that has worked in
careers where competition and winning is key.
However, sometimes I think we view romantic
interactions with men, not as an interpersonal
communication in which we must evaluate the other
person’s point of view, but as just another part
of the life scheme that has been set forth for
every good superwoman- the significant other that
we are expected and expect to have. The problem is
that. you never “have” another person. Nor should
you. Your book made me step back and reevaluate
how I have been going about dating- as though it
was a means to an end. And I firmly believe that
this was the point of breakdown for me (and
probably for lots of other women). Dating must be
viewed as a means to a relationship with another
person, not as a means to HAVE that other person.
Thus, that person’s needs must be objectively
evaluated as very much separate from my own. If
men can be happy and even have a need to pursue
and compete, then why be readily available? It
just doesn’t make sense when you put it that way.
And you did.

As a result of your book, I truly believe I will
be able to reevaluate the way I look at the men I
date- as PEOPLE. With individual interests, needs,
wants, beliefs and expectations. Not as extensions
of myself (like MY career and MY home) that I
build based on my expectations, interests, etc.
Thank you so much for sharing your gift of a fresh
perspective, no doubt based upon plenty of
extensive research. I really think this will
change dating for me.

Sincerely, A.W. in
Missouri

>>>> My Response

Wow.

I love hearing from smart, analytical and
thoughtful women like you.

Thanks for being so open and sharing your
personal experiences… and for the feedback about
my book.

There’s something that’s really FASCINATING
about what you’ve brought up.

Over the last several 20 or 30 years, as women
have started to enjoy a more “equal” place in
society with careers, opportunity, etc., something
strange has happened.

Have you noticed that women are often no longer
considered “womanly” or “feminine” once they’ve
become independent and successful in their own
right?

I have.

And not coincidentally, everywhere I go I hear
women talk about how much it sucks that men are
intimidated by successful women and don’t want to
be with women who are on an “equal” or higher
standing.

Well, with so many women talking about this
phenomenon, I’ve thought a lot about how and why
this is happening to women.

And why men are responding the way they are.

How can being smarter, more independent,
talented, etc. than other women and other men
actually become something negative?

After lots of research, observation, and
personal experience, here’s what I realized about
the “plight” of the successful and independent
woman…

I’m about to tell you the reasons why
successful women often have a HARDER TIME than
other women finding love.

REASON #1: INDEPENDENT AND SUCCESSFUL WOMEN ARE
SMART ENOUGH TO BE DANGEROUS

Have you ever noticed that other smart and
successful women around you are often the ones
alone or in the least fulfilling relationships?

And have you ever noticed that no matter how
intellectually educated a woman is, it doesn’t
make her immune to the problems of love that a
broke or uneducated woman might face?

How can that be?

Does that mean an education and success is
worthless?

No. But it does mean that one doesn’t have
ANYTHING to do with the other.

Lots of women assume that since they’re
intelligent they can FIGURE OUT or solve any dumb
little dating or relationship dilemma.

They think that all it takes is enough focus
and determination and they’ll work everything out.

This couldn’t be farther from the truth.

You can’t “think” a man into feeling something
for you.

Just like you can’t get a man to treat you
differently just because you logically figured out
what’s wrong with him and let him know.

In fact, doing the latter is more likely to
have you standing alone in the cold than being
held tightly in his arms.

Being “right” doesn’t mean you’ll be loved.

REASON #2: BELIEVING IN THE “MEN DON’T LIKE
SUCCESSFUL WOMEN” MYTH

I can’t tell you how many women I talk to that
tell me how men are scared and turned off by, or
intimidated by, successful or independent women.

I get where they’re coming from, but they’ve
confused one thing for another.

The truth is, men DON’T DISLIKE successful
women. But they DON’T LIKE them either.

Let me explain…

It’s obvious in this day in age that being
successful and independent aren’t “male” qualities
that exclude women from being attractive if they
have them.

But here’s the thing…

Most men DON’T CARE how successful a woman is.

I literally mean it. They don’t care.

Here’s why:

No matter what a woman does for a living, and
no matter how much money she makes, none of that
is going to make a man FEEL anything for a woman.

Following me here?

Are you attracted to a man JUST because he’s
rich or successful or can buy whatever he wants?

Obviously not. A man’s success can add to his
appeal, but it doesn’t create it.

Men aren’t any different in how they feel about
women.

But lots of women who are successful, secretly
believe that their success should change how men
act around them.

And some women, just like men often do, start
to rely on their success to try and attract men.

The truth is, success isn’t going to turn a man
on or create a great situation.

If a woman doesn’t UNDERSTAND how to attract a
man and create a great relationship, becoming
successful isn’t going to change that.

But being a woman who LEARNS to ATTRACT men and
create the right situation for love AND also
happens to be successful will.

REASON #3: SUCCESS ITSELF WON’T GET YOU THERE

Being successful can be a nice quality or a
“bonus” about a woman, but inside a man’s mind,
success has nothing to do with whether or not he
feels ATTRACTION or LOVE.

But lots of successful women seem to be
disappointed by this.

Understandably, they’re frustrated that the
respect and status that they’ve earned at the
office or in life hasn’t translated over to their
love-life.

Even though in the back of their minds they
keep thinking that becoming successful has worked
for men all these years.

WRONG.

This isn’t how it works for men either, so let
me use that as an example.

Just because a man is successful or rich, a
genuine and open woman doesn’t care anything about
that.

She only cares about how he makes her FEEL.

Most women just want to know that a man makes
her FEEL ATTRACTED to him, and that he’s open and
loving and he’ll always be the strong and solid
person that he is today.

So even if a man is rich and handsome, if he
doesn’t LEARN to become a good partner who makes a
woman EXPERIENCE LOVE and FEEL ATTRACTION, then
the woman isn’t going to respond.

Like it or not, it works the same way for
successful women.

Success won’t buy you love, affection or get
you shortcuts to a great situation with a man.

It just might help get you in the door.

REASON #4: ASSUMING THAT SUCCESS “STRATEGIES”
CROSS OVER TO MEN AND RELATIONSHIPS

Successful women have obviously found and used
smart “strategies” to get where they are with the
people around them.

They try and test all kinds of new ideas,
approaches, attitudes, etc. until they find what
works and then they stick with what’s best.

And things go great. It’s like they’ve got the
world and everyone around them all figured out.

That is, until they run into a “guy-problem”
and somehow everything seems to instantly go
whacko and stop working.

So they just take their best strategy and try
harder and harder at it, sure that it will work
since they’ve seen the world open up to them with
it.

But there’s no results this time and it’s a
total shock to the system.

Men are the WORST at doing this by the way.

Tons of husbands come home each night and try
to run their family and marriage with the logic
and efficiency that they use to make things work
in business.

How do you think that works out?

REASON #5: SUCCESSFUL WOMEN OFTEN “ACCIDENTALLY”
PREVENT MEN FROM NATURALLY FEELING ATTRACTION WITH
THEM

Have you ever thought about how a man falls in
love with a woman?

One of the most important and central elements
of love that takes a man from just “interested” to
“in love” with a woman is experiencing a LOSS of
CONTROL and the absence of PREDICTABILITY with the
woman.

And no, this doesn’t mean that he gives control
over to the woman and she has it.

I’ll explain…

When a man is experiencing ATTRACTION and
CHEMISTRY with a woman and he DOESN’T know exactly
what’s going to happen next, then everything
becomes terribly exciting.

And if the woman isn’t acting controlling or
manipulative, then there’s a “space” or “void”
that’s created between the man and woman.

It’s this natural “psychological space” that
moves the man closer and closer to the woman as
he’s trying close the “emotional gap” between
them.

Then the man begins to wonder what he can do to
win over more of the woman’s affections and
attention.

And it’s this out of control feeling and the
desire to fill in the gap between himself and the
woman that starts the classic patterns of love.

Unfortunately, lots of successful women get in
THEIR OWN WAY and prevent the natural patterns
that lead to love from taking place.

The most common way that successful women get
in their own way is when they starting doing
things to control each and every aspect of what’s
going on between her and the man.

*Cue the semi-obsessive behaviors like those
that the reader mentioned in her email.

Like plotting to be where a man will be and
then pretending to have “run into him”.

I think a lot of us can identify with that kind
of behavior in one way or another.

The problem with these kinds of behaviors is
that they do something damaging to us when we use
them.

These are self-manipulations that stir up all
kinds of anxiety and distance in your own mind.

AVOID THESE kinds of things, because they only
lead to more obsessive worrying and more plotting.

It’s part of what’s called a negative feedback
loop.

What’s most important here is that these
behaviors do an almost perfect job of destroying
the “tension” a man and a woman both feel when
there’s a “natural” flow of energy between them.

REASON #6: SUCCESSFUL WOMEN ARE USED TO BEING
IN CONTROL

Most mature women want to have a great
relationship and continually experience deep love
and intimacy once they’ve found a worthwhile and
attractive guy.

But often times their desire to have their
ideal situation is so strong that it can actually
drive them to try and CONTROL the situations
they’re in and the man they’re with.

Successful women have an uncanny ability to
pull together every aspect of their life and make
it work.

But what happens when successful women who have
been gracefully in control of their lives get into
a situation where they can’t CONTROL the outcome
and the other people involved?

What happens when there is NO LOGICAL SOLUTION
or straight-forward answer that will make things
work out the way they’re used to?

What happens when they get involved with a man
and things are no longer within their ability to
control?

In these situations, successful women often end
up feeling completely OUT OF CONTROL and begin to
panic.

And then FEAR kicks in because they’re not used
to not having total control of their environment.

So they start doing whatever they can think of
or what works for them in other situations in
order to try and get CONTROL back in their lives.

Of course, what they often do to try and regain
control is negative, fear-driven, and doesn’t take
into account the feelings and desires of the
man… and so it backfires.

The man freaks out, he sees her as “crazy” and
then he withdraws.

You might unfortunately already know that
story.

What’s fascinating here is that the woman’s
attempts to CONTROL are often more DESTRUCTIVE
than they are productive.

Trying to CONTROL how a man feels, what he
thinks and how he acts around them, not only
doesn’t usually work for women – it often works
AGAINST them and repels the man.

REASON #7: THEY FALL INTO THE TRAP OF USING
“MASCULINE ENERGY” TO SHAPE THEIR LOVE-LIFE

The energy, drive, focus and discipline that
can push women to success in their work can be a
potent force to create the outcomes they want.

Unfortunately, this same attitude and approach
DOESN’T translate over to getting outcomes women
might want with men, love and relationships.

In fact, this attitude often becomes an
obstacle to creating an intimate and loving
situation with a man.

Successful women often make the mistake of
approaching men and relationships with the same
kind of intensity and energy that they seek to
influence or control things at work.

They start to lead their interactions,
conversations and decisions with men with what I
call “masculine energy”.

This energy is very direct and purposeful and
it has an amazing ability to motivate and push us
to overcome and break through barriers.

But it isn’t the energy that creates an intense
and LASTING CONNECTION with a man.

The “feminine energy” is the energy that
attracts a man and can lead and TEACH him how and
why to stay open to a woman.

This feminine energy is what shows even the
most clueless and reckless of men how to become
great and loyal partners – just like it’s the
masculine energy that ATTRACTS women and shows
them a man’s strength, love and character.

Now, I’m not saying that women don’t and
shouldn’t have masculine energy. Lots of
attractive and interesting women are full of
masculine energy.

But I’ve learned that women can be VERY
SUCCESSFUL and have AMAZING LOVE LIVES by knowing
when to use masculine and feminine energy.

The key is awareness.

So let me ask you….

When a woman uses or leads her interactions
with a man with their more “masculine” energy,
what happens?

Most men aren’t able to open up or attach and
connect with a woman who’s meeting them with their
“masculine energy”.

It doesn’t make a man FEEL close, comfortable,
trusting and it doesn’t draw him in to connect
with her.

In fact, lots of men react NEGATIVELY to women
who present them with a lot of masculine energy.

When some women talk about men not liking
successful women, this is what they’re talking
about.

Men don’t like the masculine energy that a
woman is putting in place of something WAY MORE
IMPORTANT to a man:

How ATTRACTED he is to her and how she makes
him FEEL.

So let’s wrap this up for now…

One of the most critical things that I see
successful women “missing” in their interactions
with men, dating and relationships, is the idea of
creating “Intellectual Attraction” – and using
their natural “feminine energy” to do so.

A man might enjoy the idea of a woman being
successful, but it isn’t going to make him think
about her like he might a woman who pushes all his
male buttons.

A man doesn’t think, “Gee, she’s got a great
job, makes good money and doesn’t depend on anyone
else to support her, I think I’ll be into her.”

Actually, it’s the exact opposite.

A man sees or meets a woman and Wham!

He instantly falls for her, and he can’t
exactly explain why.

And that’s because there is no reason or logic
to why it happens – it happens inside a man’s
mind.

When a man becomes attracted and interested in
a woman, it’s because his FEELINGS and EMOTIONS
were TRIGGERED by something about the woman.

And no amount of logic, analyzing, convincing
or “success” in a woman’s life can control this.

If a man doesn’t FEEL IT for a woman, nothing
else will do the trick.

But if a woman CAN make a man feel attraction
for her, then it doesn’t matter how successful,
gorgeous or shapely she is.

After years or research and observations, I’ve
finally “cracked the code” on what actually works
to trigger ATTRACTION in men.

And you’d be surprised to learn that ANY WOMAN
can learn what these triggers are and how to start
learning to use them in her own life and
relationships.

Of course, I’m not just talking about that
“one-night stand” male kind of attraction.

That’s easy. Seduce a man.

I’m talking about the “long-term-he-stays-up-
all-night-thinks-about-her-all-the-time-and-does-
crazy-romantic-boyish-things-just-because-he-has-
to” attraction.

That deeper and more intimate “relationship
material” attraction.

I call this “Intellectual Attraction”.

In my ebook I talk about how any woman,
including an analytical, successful and driven
woman, can learn how to avoid all the common
obstacles to love that they put up in their lives
that men respond negatively to.

I discuss specific steps and theories about how
to find and identify that great guy, build intense
passion and attraction and turn all that into a
great long term situation with a man.

So what do you have to lose?

I’ll even let you try my ebook free just to see
if you like it.

If you don’t, all you have to do is email and
I’ll give you a full 100% refund… AND you can
still keep the book.

That means all YOU have to do is be willing to
open your mind to the idea that your love life can
be better than it is right now.

And believe that you can have the chemistry,
lasting attraction and love that you deserve.

So go check out my ebook for free and be on
your way to the next great phase of your love-life.

Go here now:

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And best of luck in life and love!

Your Friend,

Christian Carter

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Older Women Dating Younger Men (Cougars) Useful Information

SajaDuarte — Sat, 27 Feb 2010 19:03:08 +0000

Using The “Magic”
of Intuition With Men

Have you ever felt “magic” with a man?

Like when the connection you and a guy share is so strong that something inside you just tells you’ve got something real and special.

That connection and chemistry is almost impossible to describe to someone who doesn’t have it, but it’s even more impossible to ignore when you’ve got it.

Even if you know the guy isn’t the right kind of guy to be wanting to settle down with.

You can’t stop thinking about the man and the connection – it’s like a spell over the both of you.

Infatuation, crushes, connections, chemistry or even the “L” word.

That’s right, LOVE.

At one time or another, one of these have had almost magical powers over you that make you see, feel and act in ways you never would have before.

Well, believe it or not, there’s other magic waiting for you beyond connections or chemistry when it comes to men, dating and relationships.

The best part is that you’ve got your very own kind of “magic” up your sleeve that you can tap into whenever you want and use it for your own immediate benefit.

What kind of magic and what kind of benefits you ask?

Using this magic could mean the difference between finding out any major issues a guy has before they become a real problem OR getting your heart broken and never have seen it coming.

Let me ask you…

Have you ever been with a guy and he seemed to have it all together?

He was caring, loving, generous, present and aware and you had such an amazing time together.

But then some of his issues popped up out of NOWHERE.

Maybe his issues were some of the dreaded and common ones we predictable and difficult men go through like these:

- He started getting restless and he talked about how he wasn’t really ready to settle down.

- He didn’t see things getting as serious as you did.

- The connection started fading. He didn’t try to connect to you much anymore and share his intimate feelings.

- You weren’t a priority. He wanted to spend his time with his friends or other people and didn’t value the time you spent together like you did.

- He started flirting, talking to or even getting together with other women even if he wasn’t technically “cheating”.

Recognize any of these?

What’s going on here?

Here’s where your “magic” comes in.

(When I say “magic” in this case, I mean something that will give you perception and insights into situations before and while they’re happening)

OK, you might already be thinking,

“Has he lost it?”

“What in the world is he talking about MAGIC for?”

“Who believes in that stuff anyways?”

I’m with you there…

The magic I’m talking about here isn’t that far out stuff about conjuring up spells or changing into an animal.

Let’s leave that kind of magic to Harry Potter and your imagination.

The magic I’m talking about is different and exists in the real world, but it’s just as amazing.

And it centers around an important idea-

*You instinctively know more about what’s going on in the world around you than you or your conscious mind fully recognizes.

Wow, getting pretty heavy here.

Don’t worry… I’ll bring this back down to earth and land the plane quickly. And that’s where this will get fascinating…

Here’s the kicker-

You ALREADY HAVE this magical ability.

All you have to do is tune into it.

Easier said than done, right. So how does that work?

This “magic” is something that comes “pre-wired” in your brain because of the way your consciousness and your subconscious mind is hooked up to the rest of your complex body systems and senses.

So the good news is that this ability is there for you anytime you want to use it.

But the bad news is that you have to take time to fully tune into it and recognize your ability. Kind of like a practice.

Music is a good analogy for this – You can’t just pick up an instrument and start playing, right?

But once you start to become more aware of the instrument, the music and how to play, things start to naturally fall into place.

Sounds, melodies and rhythms just start to flow out of you while you’re in the moment.

It’s like they appear out of thin air and nothing could feel more natural. And your mind is able to process all the information coming at it and use it to anticipate what’s next.

Well, this is EXACTLY what this magical ability of yours is like.

Your mind is constantly picking up on information from your environment, even when you’re not really conscious of it.

And all that information is being “processed” over and over to try and calculate the risk, danger, and expectations from your environment to try to find a way towards the outcome you want.

So let’s get to it. What is this “magical” ability?

And why am I talking about it?

Well, I’ll start with what the ability is…

**INTUITION**

You’re probably already familiar with the word.

But stop right there…

When you hear the term “intuition”, it’s easy to attach all of your previous feelings and beliefs about it and dismiss it as some kind of new age “flaky” stuff.

I hear you, but indulge me here by keeping an open mind for a few minutes- I’ll make it worth your while.

How?

Well, to put it simply, you’d be cheating yourself by not spending the couple of minutes or so that it takes to open your mind to the natural power of your intuition and how to tune into it.

And that couple of minutes could help you solve some of the age-old challenges women have about knowing and understanding what’s really inside a man’s heart and mind.

I mean, it’s not like men make it very easy for women, right?

I don’t have to tell you, but MEN ARE BAD COMMUNICATORS when it comes to their feelings, emotions and intentions around love and relationships.

So knowing that men are often this way, you have a choice here:

You can either do nothing about it and continue to be shocked, frustrated, surprised and hurt by the things you find out about men after the fact.

Or…

You can start to create a more perceptive and insightful way of being in your own life and relationships by using more the natural intuitive abilities you already have.

Which one will it be?

Cool… so you’re ready to tune into your own intuitive ability.

Good call – let’s get rolling.

Using Your Intuition With Men And Dating

Using your intuition might be the best, and in some situations the ONLY, way that you’ll be able to see through all the external “behavior stuff” going on with a man and get to the truth of what’s really happening inside his mind and what his behavior is when you’re not around.

Like when a man plays hard to get, or he doesn’t call you much or initiate, or when a man gets close and then withdraws from you right after.

Why do men do this?

For each one of these I’ve got some interesting insights and theories that can help.

But…

From my perspective, there are some extremely important concepts that you need to understand before you can really “get” where a man is coming from or understand what his behaviors and issues are all about.

First, you need to build your foundation of understanding and make sure your own personal belief systems aren’t all mixed up. If they are, there’s no way for you to see the real “cause and effect” around you.

You’ll just see what your mind is fearful and afraid of, and it will only pick out and see what it knows from the past.

Which is usually is a result of a few things you’ve experienced before.

Including good relationships, bad relationships, pain, broken trust, destructive behaviors, etc…

Humans learn in all kind of fascinating ways, but not all of them produce decisions and conclusions that reflect the reality of what’s actually going on.

That’s why I find belief systems so fascinating. Our minds basically act as giant pattern recognition machines – which can either lead us to right or wrong conclusions and ways of perceiving our environment.

But let’s bring this back down to earth…

Do you know anyone women close to you who’ve had difficult relationships in the past?

And now they often have unfounded and negative fears about any man around them?

Their past experiences have had a huge impact on their personal beliefs and how they see themselves and the world.

Anyways, before I get even more off on a tangent-

I’ve got to get on with it, so I’ll need to give you abridged version. In other words, the very shortest route to get away from counterproductive thoughts and beliefs you might already have and onto positive results.

Here are some of the most important concepts you’ll need to keep in your mind as you move towards listening to and using your intuition with men:

1. Men Don’t Make Sense

All those frustrating things that men do that don’t make any sense to you as a woman will NEVER MAKE SENSE. Stop trying to make sense of them for yourself. Trying to make sense of a man in your own terms is entirely counterproductive and gets little or no results other than you becoming increasingly frustrated.

There’s a better way.

2. You Can’t Figure Everything Out

Have you ever REALLY hit it off with a guy but after a few weeks or months, even though things seemed great, the man pulled away and starting acting distant and cold?

Most men, at one time or another, do things like this that are ridiculous and impossible to figure out. So EXPECT to NOT UNDERSTAND everything a man does. If you can become more comfortable with the idea of not knowing everything about WHY a man does what he does, then you’ll feel a strange sense of calm relaxation – along with an increase in your own self-confidence.

I’m not saying that it’s OK for a man to do whatever and that you should accept any negative and withdrawing behaviors without bringing it up and confronting it.

You absolutely should take notice and make mention of these things when you see them.

But the more relaxed and positive you can think and feel around these things, no matter what the man is doing, the sooner you’ll stop fighting everything in your mind and start creating better situations for yourself.

It’s frustrating and counterintuitive, but accepting what’s going on and moving forward from that reality in a positive way changes the whole frame of the situation.

But some women get stuck in the “I need to understand why he does this and THEN I’ll figure out what to do, think and feel” mindset.

This almost never leads to clear thinking and positive action. Remember, men don’t make any sense. So don’t depend on their actions making sense for you to develop your own opinions, judgments and next steps.

Pay attention to your gut, what you want in your life and what you know is right instead of rationalizing and finding a way for it to all fit together and be OK.

3. Ask Yourself Questions, Be Patient And Your Intuition Will Talk

Your intuition talks to you through feelings, images, and bodily sensations such as “gut feelings”. Learn to pay attention to what these are trying to tell you and what’s going on when they pop up in your mind.

Maybe you’re being more open and relaxed when those intuitive gut feelings come to you – so try to get back to that place more often. This way you’ll end up being able to tap into your intuition more often when you need it.

If you don’t think you have a strong intuitive sense, simply try asking yourself more questions and keep them mulling around in your mind.

When you’ve got something in the back of your mind, something amazing happens without you even trying.

Your brain takes notice and uses all your senses to find any sign or trace of information that relates to your questions as you go about your day.

It’s kind of like a search running in the background on your computer – even though you’re doing something else it doesn’t stop looking.

After you’ve asked your questions, your mind will start sending you ideas, feelings and images without you even thinking about it. But sometimes this takes more time than you’d like.

Finally, your intuitive voice will eventually just pop up and start to give you hints and information without you even asking for it. And then it’s up to you to pay attention, acknowledge it and make good use of it.

4. Think Positive – Don’t Fill Your Mind With Fear And Doubt

Some women end up worrying almost obsessively that something is wrong or going badly with a guy they’re interested in or dating once they see some negative sign or pattern.

And once this happens, they want to know what’s going on so intently that they start letting their negative and obsessive thoughts take over.

If you want to be able to use your intuition, you need to start interrupting that voice in your head that’s the “fear-monger”.

You know the one – that voice that’s always worrying just to try and keep you safe and protected.

The thing is, you can’t find the truth in a situation if you if your mind is buried in your fears and doubts.

Just like how overly arrogant people can be misled by their false sense of belief in themselves.

Keep a balanced and objective mindset.

5. Start With Smaller, Less Important Questions For Your Intuition To Answer

If your new to using your intuition or you’re concerned with if or how to act on it, start with smaller things that might be less important – like whether or not you should go away for the weekend or if your friend will like the gift you’ve been thinking about for them.

That way, you can be practicing and learn to use your intuition without doing it in high-risk or high-pressure situations. This will help you develop your abilities and become more comfortable to trust what you find with your intuition.

6. Act On Your Intuition With The “Long-Term” In Mind

Years ago I had a huge learning experience when it came to using and listening to my intuition in the right way.

The situation came up when I was worried that a few people I worked with, who were my managers at the time, we’re talking about me and scrutinizing my work more closely than they had before.

Feeling and sensing the scrutiny, I immediately felt worried about my job and wondered if they were thinking about letting me go.

The company had laid off several employees a few months before, so I began to think that their extra attention to my work must have something to do with another round of cost-cutting.

Anyways, aside from my own professional insecurities at the time, my gut told me that something bad was coming.

So what should I do?

I was really worried.

I decided to push myself even harder at work to try and show them how valuable I was in hopes that I would keep my job. But that uncomfortable and nervous feeling in my stomach that came with my intuition about their scrutiny of my work stayed with me for the next several weeks.

Well, it turns out that my managers were watching me and judging my performance. But it wasn’t for the reasons I feared.

A few weeks later I was called into a meeting with the managers who had been watching me closely.

Walking down the hall to the meeting, I had a lump in my throat and a turning stomach.

My intuition was leading me to the conclusion that this was it – I was getting fired for the first time in my life.

I couldn’t believe it.

So I walked into the meeting feelings anxious, defensive and tense.

As I sat down, one of my managers could immediately sense my discomfort and asked me what was wrong.

Without provocation, I immediately started defending my job and showing my insecurities.

My emotions got the best of me and I even said a few negative things about the managers themselves, as I wanted to place what I saw as equal blame on the managers for the companies problems.

They quickly stopped me once I started into these issues.

Then they let me know that they had been watching my performance because they wanted to put me in charge of a new division. They wanted to be confident in their decision so they paid extra attention to my work to be sure – and now they were.

I breathed a huge sigh of relief and my mood completely changed.

End of story.

Thinking back, my intuition had alerted me so that I’d be aware of what was going on.

But the mistake I made was taking that information and using it to justify my own fears and insecurities.

If I would have taken the information, been patient with it and applied it towards my goals in a positive context, then the entire experience knowing that the managers were watching my work would have been fun and enjoyable.

But I didn’t use my intuition to see my way to something better, I simply used it as a means to worry and stress myself out.

So all this talk about intuition.

How does it really apply to the men in your life, dating and relationships?

Well, take a man with some of those common negative behaviors we were talking about earlier-

- fear of intimacy
- inability to commit
- flirting, cheating

Intuition can help you see past these things and understand them in the larger context of the deeper real “psychological and emotional stuff” that’s hiding beneath the surface.

Your intuition could even help you cut through a man’s ego and persona to get to the real person that’s hard to find.

I bet you’ve known a man who other women think would never settle down or have a sensitive side. But you’ve seen that this actually does have more long term intimate feelings and emotional attachments buried underneath.

Intuition is probably the best tool for being able to identify good and bad qualities in a man – and knowing them for what they are.

A man’s external or surface behavior and attitude can be very different than his deeper desires and intentions – as you probably already know.

Some men are, unfortunately, just good at playing the part of an emotionally stable, available and loving guy for a while, even if they aren’t.

So it’s really up to YOU to learn to get to the “deeper emotional truth” of any man you’re interested in or dating.

And yeah, I know men can be sooo frustrating for women.

In a better world, men would be able to tell you honestly and sincerely where they were at.

But as you know, MEN SUCK sometimes.

They can be HORRIBLY out of touch when it comes to feelings and emotions.

So if you’re constantly surprised, blind-sided or confused by what people around you do, (most of all men) then it’s time to get in touch with the amazing intuitive ability you have waiting for you.

To take your intuition to the next level – the more you already know the better.

For some of the best knowledge out there on what’s inside a man’s mind, how to identify good men (or the wrong guys), and to read more about the common behaviors most men have when they’re either smitten with a woman or desperately unable to get it together, then check out my ebook “Catch Him And Keep Him”.

You can check out all the details here:

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Thanks for reading and best of luck in life and love.

Your Friend,

Christian Carter

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Cougar Dating Relationship Tips And Advice For Attracting Younger Men

SajaDuarte — Sun, 21 Feb 2010 23:01:59 +0000

Creating “Intense Attraction”
With A Man

I’d like to tell you a story…

It’s a story that you might find strangely familiar. Don’t be alarmed.

Once upon a time, there was a woman who was very attracted to a particular man.

At first, he was just another attractive man… but the more she got to know him, the more she began to feel attracted to him… and the more time she spent with him, the more that attraction grew into a deep emotional attachment and affection for him.

But there was one problem.

As her emotional attachment grew stronger and stronger, she also grew more and more insecure.

Why?

Because she couldn’t tell whether or not he felt the same way towards her.

Sometimes he would talk to her and say things that led her to believe that they shared a special connection, but nothing ever progressed past the “friendship” stage.

There was an occasional glance, an occasional email or call from him… and a few times, he even opened up about something personal or emotional, and invited her “inside” for a little while.

But something was wrong with the picture.

He just wasn’t acting like a man who was “falling in love”. He was acting like a friend, but at times, even more distant than a friend would be.

And things seemed to be hot and cold. Sometimes he would look at her and talk to her, and sometimes he would ignore her and close himself off.

The insecurity that she felt from all this, became a spiral that amplified itself… and the more insecure she became, the more afraid she grew of “screwing things up” or “scaring him off”, by starting conversations or asking him if he was interested in her and why he didn’t ask her out.

Plus, the more insecure she became, the less time he seemed to want to spend with her.

After spending days and nights obsessing over this guy, the woman finally arrived at the conclusion that if he only knew how SHE FELT, that he would feel the same way.

So she made a bold move.

She TOLD HIM how she felt.

She confessed her feelings and let him know that she wanted to be with him.

He responded by flirting with her and he spent some time alone with her, and they even kissed and held each other.

But soon after, he quickly withdrew, didn’t call her and wasn’t really “available” to her.

This only confused the woman more.

She didn’t know how to take it…

Did it mean that he really loved her too, but that he was afraid of something?

Did it mean that he wasn’t ready for a long-term relationship?

Did it mean that he didn’t love her, and that he was trying to give her a hint?

Did it mean that she hadn’t tried hard enough?

Did it mean that she needed to put everything on the line and REALLY let him know how she felt?

She finally decided that she couldn’t go on like this anymore… she had to be with him.

She had to make sure that he knew just how much she wanted to be with him… so she took a big step, bought him a symbolic gift and wrote him a letter… again confessing her feelings.

And then, something unthinkable happened.

Either he didn’t reply at all… (Ouch!)

Or he replied and she connected with him on an emotional and physical level for a brief time, but then he backed away.

Then she called him a couple of times, the following week before reaching him.

He made an excuse about being very busy and said, “I’ll try to give you a call soon, I have to go”… and hung up… but she never got a call back.

Over the following months, the woman tried desperately to understand what went wrong… and what happened.

THE END…

OK, I’m back.

Now, wasn’t that a sweet story?

Heartwarming, huh?

I know; I should keep my day job, and not take-up writing romance novels…

Now, let’s talk about that story.

That story is basically a MYTH.

But I’m not talking about FICTION here.

I’m talking about a story that rings true for lots of women. A story that is timeless. A story that resonates at a deep level, because you can IDENTIFY with it.

And why does this particular story resonate for some women?

Because lots of women have been there in one way or another… at one time or another… and many have been there OFTEN in their lives.

Another thing that gives this particular story a lot of power, is the powerful negative emotions that it stirs… as a result of the powerful negative experiences that it brings back…

Stories and situations like this one, really FASCINATE me.

They fascinate me, because I see them as an opportunity to UNDERSTAND and SOLVE the puzzles that they represent.

In this particular situation, I think there is a solution.

It lies in understanding a SECRET that lots of WOMEN DON’T GET.

That secret comes down to the reality that if a man isn’t ATTRACTED to a woman, all of her attempts to confess her love, convince him to like her and court her, BACKFIRE.

In other words, they not only DON’T WORK; they actually make things WORSE.

In other words, the very things that a woman does to try to make a man LIKE HER, make him NOT like her.

They make him run.

All of those great intentions and emotional dedication actually cause the woman feeling them, to do things that make the man go away.

It sucks!

But it’s a strangely common dynamic, that also takes place inside dating situations and new relationships without women (or men) really being aware of it, and understanding what’s going on.

And I hope that by explaining the process of how this happens to you, that I’ll help you avoid this painful situation in your own future…

And maybe you can start to understand what’s going on a little better, if you think about what it’s like when a man you’re NOT attracted to, desperately wants your attention, affection and your time.

Have you ever had a guy pursue you?

As he’s trying to get your attention, approval and affection, all of his pleading and effort just seems to bug you more and make you want to get away.

Even if all he’s doing, is telling you great things about yourself and how he feels about you?

Strange and interesting…

Choices And The Paradox Of Attraction

I’m always fascinated by the idea that we humans don’t always understand the message that we’re communicating to others…

So often we think that because we WANT to communicate a message, that others are going to NATURALLY understand what we’re trying to say.

Have you ever seen a woman who dresses over-the-top sexy and wears way to much make-up?

Have you ever thought to yourself, “I don’t think that her appearance is communicating the message to men that she thinks it is”…?

Yeah, I have too.

Well, here’s the deal:

If you do something to “let a man know how you feel” … but he isn’t open to the situation at that time, or he isn’t ATTRACTED to you, then it’s going to backfire.

It’s going to trigger a feeling for the man, that I like to call the “Instant Ewww”.

The “Instant Ewww” is just as powerful as the physical and emotional response of ATTRACTION.

Once a man feels it, YOU’RE DONE.

It’s over.

It’s like hammering a RAILROAD SPIKE into the coffin.

Once a man feels the “Instant Ewww”, he’ll start behaving differently.

In short, he’ll back off or even disappear.

So where did I get the concept of the “Instant Ewww”?

I got it from watching WOMEN.

I have actually heard SEVERAL women use the word “Ewww”, when describing how they felt about a guy that was “confessing his love”… and of course, these were guys that weren’t loved in return by the woman.

Men do the same kind of thing with a woman they’re not attracted to.

Often they try to be “nice” about it. They let the attention pump up their ego a bit, and then they create what is often an unconscious barrier in their mind, that closes off communication or contact with her.

And the resulting vacuum sound you hear, is what’s happening as any ATTRACTION and interest he might have felt, evaporates.

So what causes the “Instant Ewww”?

And why would a man feel it, towards a woman who was trying to be nice… a woman who was giving him attention, a gift or telling him how she feels?

Because if you think about it from HIS perspective, you’ll realize that the moment you do something to “confess”, you’ve created a TURNING POINT in the relationship.

Up until that point, you were harmless.

I mean, men know when they are getting some “special attention” from a woman.

And they usually know it from the beginning.

But now that you’ve started pursuing him and talking about how you feel, you’ve created a NEGATIVE TENSION that can be VERY uncomfortable.

You’ve triggered an emotion that can actually repel a man and make him even more detached from his emotions.

Here’s the thing…

You can’t “make a man like you” or “change how he feels about you”, by doing nice things for him.

Doing “nice” things for a man who isn’t attracted to you, HURTS you. It backfires. Worse, it creates the “Instant Ewww” feeling, that makes it so he’ll perhaps NEVER like you.

Men are the worst at this, by the way.

They make this mistake over and over again in life, because they’re doing what MAKES SENSE to them. They’re doing it, because they don’t have an understanding of ATTRACTION.

I mean, if you have a friend and you like them, and you want to make them like you more… and you do some nice things for them, they will probably like you more.

On the other hand…

If you have a man that you “like” in a romantic way, and he doesn’t “feel it” for you, and you do something nice for him, because you want HIM to like you more, it will BACKFIRE… and he will not only NOT like you more, but he will most likely distance himself from you.

Women think that they need to communicate verbally when they like a man… as if that’s part of the necessary process of getting a guy.

In their minds, it goes like this:

Like him>Tell him you like him>He likes you

Well, remember… if you follow this pattern, yourself, with men who aren’t already ATTRACTED to you, then it’s going to BACKFIRE.

If he’s not into you, then it goes like THIS:

He thinks of you as a friend>You tell him you like him>He gets the “Instant Ewwws” and withdraws…

THE ANSWER

There are really TWO answers to this problem.

The first answer, is what to do if you’re in a situation where you like a particular guy, but you don’t know if he likes you back.

DON’T GET HEAVY WITH HIM.

Don’t buy him a big gift, do something nice to show him how much you think about him or write him a love letter…

Don’t send him a note to his work that says, “From your secret admirer”.

Don’t call him several times, without hearing from him.

And DON’T CONFESS YOUR LOVE for him.

If you want to know how he feels about you, do something to ATTRACT HIM and see how he reacts instead of telling him you love him and hearing the crickets chirp as you wait for his response.

As a rule of thumb, don’t get heavier than HIM. Use SIGNALS from him to find out how he feels… and if you don’t know how to read and create those signals, then LEARN.

Asking a man if he’s interested in you in a romantic way, or if you are “his type”, will actually DESTROY the chances that his attraction and interest in you will grow.

Really.

The SECOND answer, is to not get into this particular situation in the FIRST PLACE. Avoid it entirely.

And how does one do that?

One does that by creating ATTRACTION from the beginning.

One does that by understanding the dynamics of how and why men have the physical and emotional response of ATTRACTION triggered.

One does that by knowing what you’re doing FROM THE BEGINNING.

And what’s the best way to learn THAT skill?

I thought you’d never ask…

Well, I’ve written about attraction before and I’ll write about it again.

In my eBook, I talk about some of the very best ways to learn how to make man feel ATTRACTION for you.

But above and beyond the meeting and attracting men “stuff”, I also talk about how attraction, communication, psychology and emotions all play into the longer term “stuff” around dating, and creating a solid foundation for a future relationship.

In my eBook, I go deep inside the mind of a man to tell you the secrets and truths that lots of women will never know about.

The eBook is called “Catch Him And Keep Him”.

I’ve spent several years now, studying the ways that women (and men) who are “naturals”, communicate using their words, voice tone and body language.

The way they integrate all these, makes them MAGNETIC to be around. And you probably know what I’m talking about, if you know any women who seem “lucky in love”. Where everything involving men seems to come easily and effortlessly to them.

And I’ll tell you… it’s not magic.

You don’t have to be gorgeous or young.

And you don’t have to be LUCKY.

What you DO have to do is LEARN.

It’s a skill, and I honestly believe that ANY woman can learn it if she wants.

But you’re not likely to figure it out by “trial and error”. Many of the keys to making men feel ATTRACTION and want to be around you for the long-term aren’t “obvious”, at all.

In fact, many of them make no sense… and they’re the LAST thing you’d do in a particular situation, if you didn’t know the SECRETS.

For more about these secrets, go check out my eBook.

It’s jam-packed with insights, concepts, tips and secrets.

Go here to check it out:

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Thanks and best of luck in life and love.

Your Friend,

Christian Carter

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Cougar Dating Advice for Women

SajaDuarte — Fri, 19 Feb 2010 05:07:16 +0000

Relationship Help for Women:

The Highway Of Love

By Rori Raye

I’m stuck again.

Not sick, not tired, just going backwards in my mind.

A psychic practitioner stopped me at the end of a party yesterday, and told me I was about to have a detour.

Today.

I don’t quite remember the exact words she used, but it was something along the lines of “Right now you’re going down the 405, and you’re about to take a detour, and then you’ll have to decide what you want to do with your life.”

And then she disappeared.

Okay.

So one part of me sees only possibilities in that scenario – Wow, choices, new things, new roads, new…. And then another part – Gremlin Voice soaked for sure – screams Other shoe dropping!

Any minute now!

Watch out for falling shoes!

And I look around me, furtively, searching each car that passes by, each person who passes by, each word that passes by, for a clue.

For a sign.

For impending disaster.

I have three choices.

One, I can call up this practitioner and ask for clarification. But, I realize, nothing she says will change the fact that I must make one of the other two choices.

Two, I can wallow in fear and try to be very careful and watchful and vigilant, analyze everything that shows up in my life at every minute, and forget I’m actually alive and living.

Three, I can choose the choice of possibilities.

I can – regardless of what the psychic has seen or knows, regardless of what she says or what she thinks, or even more profoundly, regardless of what I think – see every car that passes by, every person who passes by, each word that passes by as a “detour” into a new possibility.

And, if I make choice Number Three, I’d better know what I’m getting myself into – this new possibility might lead to another detour, to another possibility, to another, and another, where the choices are endless.

Am I more afraid of being stuck or of getting lost?

Is it that I’m really so certain I can’t choose right every time, or does it really matter if I choose right every time?

Lots of questions, and sometimes the answer is “I don’t know,” or “None of the Above.”

So how do I know what to do and where to go and what to think?

And how do I stop; my mind from racing to fear instead of flowing to possibilities?

Well, first off, just because I investigate another road doesn’t mean I’ve left the Highway of Love. In fact, what if I’m not even on it at all!

What if, even though I think I’ve been on the Highway of Love all this time, I’m really only on a side road?

What if I’m not even on a road?

What if I’ve been going in circles?

So, what if I want to continue down this so-called detour of a new possibility?

What then?

What if the detour leads to a bigger Highway?

What if I’ve been on the Highway of Where I’ve Always Been and What I’ve Always Done, and the detour will lead me smack to the Highway of Love?

Well, how’s this for a job description: Adventurer!

Lots of men and women are making thrilling, actual lives out there being Indiana Jones – finding lost civilizations, solving ancient riddles, leading teams through the jungles of the world.

Everyone has a different tolerance for risk and a different idea of what’s in the pot of gold at the end of the Quest, and some of us quake at even the thought of stepping a foot into the unknown.

So many of us are traveling up and down a dead end wash we call “love” in the middle of something we only know of as “familiarity.”

Sometimes we ride it in souped-up all-terrain vehicles, and sometimes we crawl along it, but we hardly ever fly over it, and actually see, with our own eyes, that it’s been a dead-end all along.

So, what if the Highway of Love is truly a super-highway leading to… who knows where?

And, what if it’s really not all that hard to navigate?

What if the only problem with it is it’s just not a dead-end wash?

What if the only hard thing about it is it’s not “familiar”?

So I bless the psychic.

Not for giving me a clue to what’s next, but for giving me a clue to my fear.

Perhaps the 405 isn’t all there is.

Now I have to deal with myself.

If I’m so afraid of detours, how will I handle the Highway of Love when I’m on it?

Will I run back to my dead-end?

Will I swear off detours?

Will I swear off possibilities?

Will I choose “Familiar” over “Better”?

Will I choose “Safely Stuck” over “Scary What I Really Want”?

Will I stay in worry and doubt and fear and not leave my house, or will I move out and about with abandon?

Will I keep my eyes open for danger, or will I allow in possibilities?

The choice is mine.

The choice is yours.

Try this way of choosing:

When you find yourself stuck, or afraid, ask yourself what road you’re on.

You may answer – I’m in love!

I couldn’t be happier!

Or I’m safe and fine, I don’t need a relationship, I don’t need someone else to love me, I love myself just plenty.

Or I don’t have time for all this.

I’m busy, I’m tooling down my road just fine, and, Rori, what do you know about it anyway?

Okay, so you know what’s up.

You’ve made your choice, and it feels good, and here you are, and you’re right – you don’t need me.

And if you answer I’m tired of the same-old-same-old.

I’m tired of the souped-up cars and the dry runs and the circles, then, maybe, you have nothing to lose, and everything to gain by choosing “Better” and “Scary What I Really Want,” than “Safe” and “Familiar.”

So, put on your new hat.

The one marked “Adventurer!”

Imagine that your emotions, your instincts, your heart rhythms, are a beautiful, powerful Horse you can ride across the landscape of your life.

Your Horse knows the way, clean and clear, to where you want to go. And if you should ever steer it wrong, it knows the way back.

Now, sit your Horse tall and proud.

You are about to let the whole world see you shake from fear, thrill from excitement, breathe hard from anticipation, tense up from the knot in your throat and shimmer from the hope in your eyes.

You are about to let go.

The Horse of your emotions, your instincts, your connection to life, your heart, is feeling feisty.

You’re about to let your Horse run free.

Imagine doing it.

Imagine tolerating the fear, the excitement, the heavy breathing, the tension, the shimmer.

Imagine riding the Horse somewhere new and feeling everything you’re feeling.

Believe that anytime you want, you can stop.

Yes, you can stop.

You can say No, turn back, go forward, take a rest.

You can.

You can say No when it doesn’t feel right, and you can say Yes when it feels right.

Sometimes it can feel right, but it’s just a little (okay, a lot) scary.

Don’t let that stop you!

Fear feels way different when you’re out there riding the Horse than it does when you’re stuck stock still.

Fear is many things, and it wears many faces, and we build all kinds of defenses on top of it to pretend it isn’t there or hide it away, or fight it.

If you don’t believe Adventurers feel fear, you’ve been sitting in the safe dead-end too long.

Fear is part of the Highway of Love. Bring yours along with you for the ride.

Soon, it’ll get tired and old, and you’ll be too busy having fun to even notice if it’s there or not.

So, wear your Adventurer hat (yes, you have one!), take along all your baggage, and imagine the exhilaration of having what you want.

Then, kiss your Horse, and let it take you somewhere new – to the Highway of Love.

Let me show you all the ways in which you can let go of fear and live the love life of your dreams.

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Cougar Dating Relationship Advice

SajaDuarte — Fri, 19 Feb 2010 04:53:05 +0000

Astrology And Love Advice for Women:

Cosmic Compatibility – It’s All About The Moon

By Carol Allen

Tip: If you’ve spent a lot of time learning about the signs of the zodiac, it may surprise you to know that your Sun sign and that of the man or men in your life, does not have much to do with how you RELATE.

That’s right – it’s NOT the thing to pay attention to when you want to know about compatibility.

It’s not that it’s a waste of time to learn about the signs, it’s just that there’s A FAR MORE IMPORTANT SIGN to understand when it comes to love…

But it’s NOT your Sun sign, it’s your Moon sign.

In fact, the most amazing compatibility technique in all of astrology comes from the ancient system of India, and it’s based completely on looking at two people’s Moon positions.

To learn more about the power of this information to enlighten your relationships, check out a comprehensive compatibility report called, “The Right Man Report” which utilizes this technique.

To read all about it, and sign up for my free love and astrology newsletter, go here:

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I have a confession to make: when I first started doing astrology readings for a living I was SCARED.

I was incredibly worried that people would want me to be this brilliant oracle.

You know, like that they’d expect me to know every detail of their past, present, and future to such a specific extent that I’d be able to tell them exactly what to do about EVERY area of their lives…

Including things like where to work, who to marry, how many kids to have, and what stocks to buy.

I thought clients would want me to tell them such exact predictions that I’d be responsible for their very existence.

But a funny thing happened…

Soon, I noticed a phenomena that kept occurring over and over with almost every client that walked through my door.

In fact, it happened so much that I basically completely stopped worrying about what I was supposed to tell them.

All my fear vanished.

What was it that kept happening?

A truly amazing thing – instead of clients wanting ME to be this powerful source of massive, detailed information, I couldn’t get a word in edgewise.

They kept doing ALL the talking!

It almost didn’t matter what I said.

They didn’t seem to care what I said – they wanted me to listen to what THEY said!

I just had to nod and smile and make the occasional “mmmm hmmm,” sounds, and they’d leave happy.

I couldn’t believe it.

And soon my fear was replaced by GUILT.

This wasn’t work – this was easy – and most of the time it was fun!

What was it that people were so desperate to talk and talk and talk endlessly about, that they were willing to drive across town for, and pay a total stranger to listen to them yammer on and on about?

You guessed it… boys.

Every astrology “reading” turned into an enormous girl chat about boys… men… love… and what to do to be happy in a relationship.

Pretty soon I figured out that I’d better find something of value to offer, beyond nodding my head and smiling from time to time.

So, for almost a decade I tried to learn all that I could about astrological compatibility.

That was what my customers were clamoring for after all – they wanted to know how to best get along with the men that they loved.

And they were asking for ASTROLOGY.

I wasn’t a therapist (though they tried to turn me into one!).

I am an astrologer, after all.

And sometimes the charts were very helpful.

I could see things like what timing a woman was in, and whether or not it supported her being in a full relationship.

I could predict when she’d marry (no kidding!) and when she’d likely have a big break up.

I could tell her main issues in relationships – if she was too sensitive, bossy, introverted, masculine, or fickle…

I could see who she was attracted to – older or younger, rich or poor, creative or square, and if they’d likely be available, faithful, addictive, or flaky…

But often it felt like my assessment of two charts together (chart compatibility) was vague.

I could see who of the couple made more money, the different ways they communicated, and basic specifics about their personalities.

But the women already knew that stuff.

What I couldn’t see was the very DESTINY of the relationship itself.

I started to get frustrated that I wasn’t being very helpful, even though my clients didn’t seem to mind – again, all they wanted was for me to nod and smile.

But I wanted to HAVE THE ANSWERS. I wanted to KNOW what they should do. I wanted to be a source of REAL CLARITY and UNDERSTANDING.

Soon I started to get bored with readings – not with clients, but with my contribution to the sessions.

I started considering becoming a therapist after all.

I looked into Psychology programs. (But I’d have to take more math classes – something I swore I was done with FOREVER in college – ugh!)

I got scared all over again – not of seeing clients, but of what I was going to do with my life.

Perhaps I’d wasted the better part of a decade studying astrology, only to abandon it…

And then, a miracle occurred.

I went to an astrology conference and I met an amazing man at a lecture. He and I kept both chiming in and participating with the speaker, and we both kept saying essentially the same things.

So, after a while I noticed this guy was very cool – because, hey – he and I kept agreeing.

So we talked at the break and he told me he’d given a class on an often misunderstood, misused compatibility technique that he’d uncovered and taught himself, by studying several books from India in their original (now dead) language that he’d also taught himself.

(Can you say GENIUS?)

He gave me a handout from the class detailing the technique which he explained was based on comparing two people’s MOON CONSTELLATIONS, said his goodbyes, and walked out of the conference hall.

Neither of us knew that in that brief exchange he’d changed my life forever.

I went home and started playing with the technique.

I started using it in readings.

I started sharing the information it revealed with clients.

And soon another amazing thing happened.

They shut up.

They wanted to hear what I had to say.

They hung on my every word.

No longer were my compatibility sessions vague.

Now I could give real, in-depth, specific, comprehensive overviews on exactly how two people would affect each other and FEEL together.

And not just that – now I could see not only how they’d get along, but the actual potential of the relationship to MOVE FORWARD or not, separate from how they got along.

And the best part? It never failed…

I fell so in love with the technique that I tracked down the amazing man who gave me the handout and trained under him for several years.

And when I started trying to reach more women to help them be more successful with the men they loved, I called him up and we figured out a way to make this information available for YOU at your fingertips!

“The Right Man Report” is the result. This lengthy, detailed compatibility report can help you to finally understand your man and your relationship, and just what to do with both.

To order yours now with a seven day, no risk, money-back guarantee, sign up for my newsletter and order yours today:

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Here’s why it’s so cool… It covers fifteen areas of connection (or DISCONNECTION), explaining just what you experience with a man.

(Because sometimes it’s not a compatibility report, it’s an INCOMPATIBILITY REPORT. )

Things like: if you have the same sensibility and can truly be yourselves of if no matter how much you explain yourself he’ll never get you, if you can easily want the same things or if you’ll have constant obstacles keeping you apart, if you can feel peaceful with him or if his very presence will make you uncomfortable, if you’ll have that “meant to be” feeling, and more…

It takes all the confusion out of your dynamics.

Now you can know why you’re crazy about him but never want to do the same things, why he seems overwhelmed by your emotions, why no matter what you do you can’t have progress, why you feel more loyal, why everything that happens between you is your idea, and on and on…

No longer do you have to wonder if your issues or challenges with him are all your imagination or not.

No longer will you feel like your relationship problems are ALL YOUR FAULT.

Maybe they’re not your fault, or his…

Maybe they’re just how you go together.

You can sign up for my free newsletters and order yours now by going here!

May God and his planets and stars shower you with love!

Carol Allen

Cougar Dating Relationship Advice

SajaDuarte — Fri, 19 Feb 2010 04:47:25 +0000

The Secret Cause Of “Distance” In Relationships

Hey there,

I’m about to share a secret with you about men that most women will go their entire love lives never seeing or understanding.

Here’s why it’s critical that you find out about this secret RIGHT NOW…

This one simple but powerful insight could mean the difference between you becoming truly close, connected and committed with a man, in the kind of way where you TRULY know him.

Or…

Experiencing the disconnection and withdrawal that often comes from a man’s fear of “losing his freedom” or being overwhelmed by intimacy in a relationship with a woman, who DOESN’T know about this secret.

The truth is, it doesn’t have to be so difficult when it comes to a lasting relationship with a man.

Keep reading to learn a powerful insight most women will never come across to turn the common “resistance” in relationships with men from an obstacle to a point of growth and connection.

Oh, and here’s something else you’re going to get from this insight that will DRAMATICALLY change things in your love life for the better…

What you’re about to learn will not only help you understand what’s REALLY going on in a man’s mind… since, as you know, men can often not share much or make it feel very easy to share…

But… it can also have the rare and desirable quality of actually helping a man to understand YOU more.

Wouldn’t that be a breath of fresh air?

If you haven’t read between the lines yet, I’m talking about a RELATIONSHIP SKILL that’s CRITICAL for you to learn if you want a lasting relationship with a man.

Stop repeating the same old patterns, that you know from experience, have only lead to heartbreak, disappointment or wasted energy.

It’s time for change.

It’s time to do things differently.

It’s time to have what you want in love.

It’s time to find and use WHAT ACTUALLY WORKS in relationships with men.

THE POWER OF YOUR BELIEFS
ABOUT MEN AND RELATIONSHIPS

There’s something FASCINATING that I’ve realized is a common source of pain and frustration for lots of women in relationships with men… and I want to share it with you.

Something that can create a subtle but powerful and lasting DISTANCE between a woman and a man.

Something that even happens for women who would consider themselves “good communicators.”

Something that brings about the very situations that most women are looking to avoid in a relationship – such as disconnection, withdrawal and a lack of intimacy.

What I’m talking about here are our BELIEFS.

But how are BELIEFS important when it comes to dating and relationships with men?

Well, beliefs have a VERY POWERFUL EFFECT on everything we think and do.

You’re not always conscious of it, but your beliefs color your entire perception of what’s happening around you.

You just don’t see it happening because your mind does it so quick and perfectly.

Everything you see and experience is run through your own set of beliefs, and these help shape a set of meanings, feelings and emotions.

So, in a sense, what you think and feel is largely driven by your beliefs.

Here’s where all this gets FASCINATING…

What if you have an overly “negative” belief?

And what if you have a belief based on fear or loss?

And what if you have a belief that’s just plain WRONG?

The PAINFUL TRUTH is that, if you’re like lots of women who’ve been hurt in relationships, then you probably have your own set of beliefs about men, relationships and about yourself in relationships.

And, like it or not, some of these beliefs are most likely shaping negative, limiting or even SELF-DESTRUCTIVE experiences in your life.

Of course, men have these kind of beliefs too, and these beliefs subtly drive parts of their thinking and behavior.

Here’s a great example…

Tell me… would a healthy, loving, committed relationship with a woman really take away a man’s “freedom”?

Of course not.

Believe it or not, men are smart enough to know this when they have a great woman in their life.

But then, why do so many men still believe this to be true anyway, and act it out in their relationships through non-committal or withdrawing behavior?

Here’s the strange part about WHY…

It’s not a man’s “logical” or “rational” mind that’s completely in control here.

It’s the man’s SUBCONSCIOUS BELIEF that a woman and a relationship will take away his freedom.

Note that I said “SUBCONSCIOUS” BELIEF here…

Which means that even if you “called a man out” about this belief in his mind, it doesn’t mean that he’d be able to see what you’re talking about, let alone understand it for himself.

Follow me here?

In fact, a man would probably say you were making up “psycho-babble” and not hear you at all.

But here’s the point…

Men and women both have important and powerful beliefs about the other sex and relationships, rooted deep in their minds.

So…

Do you know YOUR beliefs?

And do you know how to find out what a man’s beliefs are?

Knowing this you won’t fall into common deadly relationship traps other women come up against again and again with men and can NEVER get the clarity that they’re after.

IDENTIFYING YOUR “LIMITING BELIEFS”
AND THE COMMON SITUATIONS WITH
MEN THAT CREATE THEM

After years of research, study and observation, I’ve found several of the common false or “limiting beliefs” that keep women from loving and having lasting relationships with men.

Of course, I’ve also found common “limiting beliefs” that men have – ones that seem to, in situation after situation, make it difficult for them to be in committed relationships.

But let’s start by talking about the most important person here…

YOU.

Let me ask you an important question…

Have you ever wondered if there’s something you’re just plain missing about men in general?

That when it comes to how men think, feel and behave in relationships, they’re really all messed up and strange?

Here’s something I’ve learned from women about what’s really puzzling about a man…

How can a man be so open, generous, loving and caring early on and at various times in a relationship, but then act like you aren’t the same two people who share so much when things go wrong?

I’ve seen this myself, and I’ve heard it from TONS of women who’ve I’ve met, spoken to, worked with and received emails from online.

In fact, to be honest, I’ve even been that guy myself in the past.

The reality is that a man can go from caring, protective, complimentary, and emotionally engaged with a woman, and then suddenly become distant, cold or uninterested.

All as though he was never even emotionally involved in the first place.

Know what I’m talking about here?

Give me a silent nod if you’ve experienced this kind of thing with a man before.

Sucks, right?

When it happened, you probably felt, on some level, like you’d NEVER understand what in the world is going on with men.

And…

You probably felt like you’d NEVER MEET A MAN who was different and who would UNDERSTAND YOU.

Let alone get how love and relationships work in YOUR WORLD.

Sound or feel familiar?

Ok, now guess what these thoughts and feelings are?

That’s right.. these are the BELIEFS that you’ve picked up from your past experiences with men.

And guess what else?

They’re not very helpful to you.

In fact, they’re actually COUNTERPRODUCTIVE when you’re wanting to have an open, connected, loving relationship with a man.

They also create distance between you and a man – distance that most women never know they’re creating themselves.

But don’t worry… you’re not strange, messed up or weird.

We’ve all been there.

You most likely took on these self-defeating beliefs to try and deal with the pain you felt, and to help make sense of it all.

There’s a direct link between pain and awareness.

And when you experience pain, it’s a natural reaction of the mind and body to lessen your awareness, in an effort to help numb the pain.

But here’s what you need to know RIGHT NOW…

If you don’t start to look for and become aware of your own Limiting Beliefs, then they’ll just keep holding you back from ever finding what you want. The strange thing is, for some reason, lots of people like to hold on to their false and Limiting Beliefs – regardless of how damaging they are.

I like to think of these kind of beliefs as a “SECRET EXCUSE”.

We each have one, or more, Secret Excuses that we make up to comfort and protect ourselves from the things that hurt or disappoint us about our lives or ourselves.

But here’s the reality…

Your Secret Excuse is getting in your way.

Your Secret Excuse is keeping you at a distance from men, or that one special man, in your life.

Your Secret Excuse is actually taking the new things that are coming into your life and painting them over with a dark negative “tint”.

Let me give you a few of my favorite “Secret Excuses” that I hear from women all the time when it comes to men…

“Men can’t have real relationships.”

“There are no good guys out there.”

“All men cheat.”

Or, how about some of the hopeless ones…

“Even if I find a great guy, he won’t end up truly loving me… and it won’t last.”

“I never get back what I put in when it comes to relationships. I give up.”

Or, there are the martyr beliefs…

“I’m just not meant to have true love in my life – and all these past heartbreaks and failed situations are PROOF.”

“There’s something wrong with me as a woman, and I won’t be able to fix it, so I’ll give up on finding real love in my life.”

And then there’s the single most popular and common limiting and self-defeating belief out there…

It’s so subtle and pervasive that some women pass it around to each other daily, without even noticing how negatively it effects them -

“Men are jerks.”

If you don’t understand how destructive this can be, imagine this…

What do you think would be going on for a man if he had repeatedly said that he thought women were all “hysterical?”

Or how about, “Women are all bitchy?”

Not a very healthy outlook on women and relationships here, right?

Not the kind of guy you want to make a “go of it” with… right?

Lots of “baggage” to overcome.

Or maybe worse…

Lots of deeply rooted personal BELIEFS to break down before a man would ever actually SEE YOU for who YOU are and be “present” with you.

Translation – lots of emotional distance and a severe lack of understanding and intimacy.

PUTTING YOUR NEW AWARENESS OF
“LIMITING BELIEFS” TO WORK IN YOUR LOVE LIFE

So, now that you’ve got this new “education” about BELIEFS, how they work, and their power, what can you do to improve your situation RIGHT NOW?

What can actually create positive change and growth in the real-world you live in?

In other words…

Ideas are good.

But RESULTS are better.

The very first step is to take the time to pay attention to your own “voice.”

You know… that one that’s in your head that goes off and screams loudly inside when bad things happen with a man.

And yeah, I bet this voice isn’t the thing you want to try and get close to in your life right now.

But the sooner you figure out why it’s there and what’s behind it, the sooner you can make a positive change for the better.

Here’s something simple but profound.

(My favorite kind of concept!)

The more aware you become about something, the more power you have to change it.

But you can’t work with something that you haven’t put your finger on and identified for yourself.

So start by working to pay more attention to the things you DON’T LIKE, or that BOTHER YOU about men or relationships.

Maybe it’s that thing that has somehow happened to you again and again with men, even though you promised yourself you’d never let that kind of thing into your life again.

Yeah, I know… Yikes!

I’m asking you to look at that “crap?“

You’re probably thinking that you finally got away from it.

Well, I’m not asking you to go there because I’m sick and twisted. (not much anyway…lol)

I don’t want things to be tougher than they have to be for you to find and create the love and fulfillment you deserve.

No… it’s because I want you to be able to move past the things that are holding you back by pushing them out from the place where they subtly undermine you.

I call this “lighting the dark spots”.

These “dark spots” are where we don’t often like to look and are the places that we hide things from ourselves that we don’t like when we see them.

But these places, as scary as they might seem, are the source of our Limiting Beliefs.

So, when we can bring these things into our consciousness and awareness, we gain positive power over them.

Of course, it also really helps to have experience and guidance when you start off in new areas.

Finding the right information can save you literally years or decades of time and wasted energy.

And that’s where you’re really in luck…

I’ve literally spent years helping women avoid the pain and frustration of destructive and limiting beliefs.

In fact, I’ve been able to save thousands of women from the wasted time and energy of trying HARDER and HARDER in their relationships and getting LESS and LESS back.

Partly by just clearing up some of the critical misunderstandings and frustrations that come from limiting beliefs.

But also, by explaining the importance of knowing EXACTLY what to do in each of the critical situations that come up with men while dating and in relationships.

There are crucial “resistance points” with men and dating… and if a woman doesn’t know about these, it’s HIGHLY likely that she’ll trip over them and end up with the common and dreaded emotionally distant and non-committal man.

Don’t end up there, with no idea of how to change things – without the drama and resistance – on how “talks” can go for lots of women with men.

Here’s the good news…

A few years ago, I finally decided to take all my very best ideas, concepts and strategies that I’d used to help women in the REAL WORLD, and put it all together in one single COMPLETE REFERENCE GUIDE.

What came together was an in-depth guide to what’s really going on inside the mind of a man.

A guide that any woman could quickly and easily use to transform her love life – as a single woman OR inside her existing relationship.

My ebook, “Catch Him And Keep Him” is quite possibly the world’s best single “guide book” for women when it comes to the male mind, dating, attraction and LASTING RELATIONSHIPS.

But don’t take my word for it…

I’ve included a few recent emails I got in my inbox from women who have read my book.

See what they have to say for yourself.

You can find their emails a little further below.

Or, if you want, you can download my ebook right now and be reading it in literally a minute or two.

I’m SO ABSOLUTELY CONFIDENT that you’re going to get TONS and TONS of real and lasting change, growth, and benefits in your love life from my book that I’m going to make you a special promise.

I’ll let you try my ebook FREE to see if you like it.

That’s right…

I’m 110% sure it will bring amazing change into your life with men, dating and relationships.

Although, I won’t lie – it’s not going to download itself and jump into your brain all on it’s own…

You actually do have to read it and work with the material – and I can’t do that for you.

But what better “investment” could you make that promises to bring you more connection, love and fulfillment in your relationship?

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Do yourself a “free favor” right now and download my ebook for a free trial.

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Best of luck in life and love and I’ll talk to you again soon.

Your Friend,

Christian Carter

—REAL EMAILS FROM ACTUAL READERS OF MY EBOOK—

Christian,

I first want to start off by thanking you. I read your book front to cover in three days and it may just be the most powerful and inspirational tool i have ever encountered! You truly opened up my eyes to a completely new way of dealing with men and helped me see what it was that I was doing wrong.

I also read, “He’s Just Not That Into You” before i read “Catch Him and Keep Him.” I must say, although it was a good book, i strongly believe that yours was much more informative on an objective level. You explain it in a way that doesn’t criticize or put women down. Instead you literally show us how we can make some changes in the way we perceive situations with men. Your book was a much more constructive learning tool for me.

Thank you!

D.B.

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Christian,

I hope this e-mail will get to you. I bought and paid for your book this week. I also read the entire book because it is a fast read.

I just wanted to tell you that you are utterly amazing – you have your head on straight, and I totally agree with your viewpoint on the male/female dynamics. I am recently divorced after being previously widowed, so I know what a good marriage and relationship consists of based on the first marriage. At this juncture, I needed some reassurance, and your book really reconfirmed the viewpoint that I already had– that being an independent, self-assured woman is a win for the woman, and a win for a relationship.

I’ve recently gone on 3 dates with someone I like. On the last date, I was kind of disappointed that he didn’t make sexual advances. Based on reading your book, I am honored. Thanks for that enlightenment.

Alice C.

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Hi Christian!

I have to tell you, this book, along with several other key events, has changed my life!!! In the past week, I’ve been contacting old boyfriends and forgiving them, apologizing, sending love to them and really meaning it! I am able to stop being a victim of circumstance and start taking responsibility for creating everything I want and deserve. It’s all about loving and forgiving myself. I was seeking approval and a whole slew of other disgusting behaviors. I just didn’t get it. Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!!! I’m going to tell all of my single friends about this web site and book~!

Julie

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Subject: Success story

Hi Christian!

This email is about a success story, but not mine – yours!

Your story (ebook) is a true success! I am glad I had the guts to write my Visa-card no and order your book, I hope U won’t sell it to criminals in the future…. I had some money left on the account today so I might just trust U after all.

I have just started to study at University (after working 17 years): Social psychology and communication, I have also gone to a course in Nonviolent Communication (Marshall Rosenberg) and what can I say: YOUR BOOK HAS IT ALL! You have great skills in several areas and combine them in a very intelligent way. I read somewhere that you said that you’re not an author. You are! I can tell. It was the perfect language for this subject. You even put in data about scientific research in a very interesting and humorous way.

Actually, you have inspired me to become a “non- author” in topics about personal development and understanding people…my vision is to become a personal coach and I think this writing thing can be something for me too. I have never had that idea before but I will continue nurturing it!

Finally: THANK YOU for explaining why I have failed in earlier relationships! And also why I succeeded in some! It all seems clear now. I can’t wait to test my new skills and see where it takes me I have come so far that I know that the only person that can make me happy is me, myself and I, that is the first step right? That means I will no longer be needy and clingy, halleluja. I have a good life without a man.

I hope you have come so far that you are able to feel how grateful I truly am for the opportunity to read your “instruction book”, and that I really think that you have made a great job. Put this knowledge in your heart and keep it. I don’t want to waist your time in vain, see.

Best wishes,

Annki from Sweden

ps: Sorry for the “false” subject line….I couldn’t resist it

ps2: I don’t know how many grey hairs the studies have given you, but trust me, it was worth it You will save loads of women from unnecessary pain. Hopefully loads of men as well. That gives a lot of plus points in heaven!

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